20/05/2024
I wanted to share this as its a well written piece on puppies and what people expect when they bring them home. Especially the part about them not being human. This is where a lot of us fall down for dogs. If we do not treat them and train them like a dog then the will start misbehaving and people often wonder why. Because ultimately, THEY ARE A DOG!!
Many people have this perfect vision of what it is going to be like with a puppy in the family. It is also common to forget that you are bringing a young canine into your family, not a human. We think of the cute, cuddly, fluffy puppy …… not the razor-sharp teeth, small bladders & untrained bowels. You’re probably imagining how amazing the puppy will be & how much the kids will love him. Everyone’s going to be happy!
I’m not trying to discourage you, but I do want to remind you that when you invite this puppy into your home; a living, breathing creature, with its own mind & razor-sharp teeth is entering your environment. A human environment.
You may be imagining how your puppy will sit calmly while you eat dinner, be obedient & quiet. It’s great to have ideals of how we want to shape our puppies into our dream dog, but puppies don’t start that way. When you bring your puppy home, he will be a “puppy”. He will do puppy things, not human things. He will behave like a dog, which doesn’t usually coincide with how we live, play & interact with other humans.
Obviously, there is a lot of work to do in order to create your ideal dog. Set goals & work towards them. Want your puppy to lay calmly at your feet while you work in the office. Want your puppy to come when called. Want your puppy to relax in their crate. Want your puppy to be quiet. Want your puppy to sleep through the night.
Recognise that puppies will do as puppies choose until trained. When a puppy first arrives at your home everything is fair game. You will need to teach them how to be appropriate.
There tends to be a fantasy that we have to treat our puppies like humans. We expect them to act like us & think like us. But puppies don’t think like us, they think like dogs! Similarly, we think like humans. We speak English & puppies speak “dog”. We have to learn how to communicate with each other.
The reason that puppies bite is because it is normal dog behaviour. If you have ever watched puppies play together you will have some insight into what is normal puppy behaviour. Puppies bang into each other, push each other over, bite each other in all sorts of places. They strut & bark & maybe even growl. They can be quite rough.
They're puppies, and they don't know what we want. We have to teach them. They don't have our language & don't even know what we're saying to them. It’s important to have reality sitting beside the fantasy being built around the wonders of the new puppy. Recognising that your puppy is a dog & treating them like one is not a bad thing. It doesn't reduce your love or care for them in any way. It gives you a greater ability to enrich their lives.