21/11/2025
It takes a lot to be willing to change. To see something inside yourself, in what you’re doing, in what you’ve been taught. To hold it, see it and and then… let it go.
I learned about horses in racing stables. I internalised so much aggression and dominance in my handling. I was quick to be confrontational. I didn’t see - or know honestly - the basics of how to read a horse, or how a horse should be.
Simply loving them as horses, I was intuitive about some aspects. I bonded easily with the horses that weren’t liked. Giving them the love and patience and kindness that built them up a little.
I missed the indoctrination of a pony club upbringing. Being told that we do things in certain ways because we always have.
I learned in tertiary study, in my own life and other areas and interests of mine that it is seldom good to maintain the status quo.
So when Tourn came home to me and I was faced with truly learning what it meant to own a horse?
When Tourn came home to me and I did little else but chew on whether he liked a given discipline, pursuit or style?
When Tourn came home to me and I had to unwind his body and learn about horses and redevelop his entire system?
When Tourn came home to me and openly and without hesitation shared every thought he ever had?
I changed. I grew. I found the pieces of what I thought was good practice, thanked them for teaching me and then let them go. Or I’m trying to anyway.
And Tourn has thrived.
So when you meet inevitably meet the horse that asks you take a step back and review yourself? Let them.