09/05/2025
Grieving is never easy, and each time we deal with it, it has its own pace and process. Horses feel loss just as deeply, whether itâs through death or when a companion leaves the herd.
Science is beginning to catch up with what many of us have observed: horses show grief-like distress responses when they lose a companion. Studies have documented changes like calling, pacing, reduced appetite, and even physical signs of stress after a herd mate is gone. Separation can sometimes be even harder than death, because the lack of closure leaves the horse waiting, searching, and unsettled.
Supporting horses through grief means offering patience, consistency, and gentle companionship: not rushing them, but meeting them where they are.
Do Horses Grieve? đ
The answer is: absolutely, yes.
Horses form deep and lasting bonds with their herd matesâwhether itâs a lifelong pasture companion, a stable buddy, or even a goat, dog, or human they share space with. When that friend leavesâwhether by moving to a new home or through deathâthe horse left behind often feels the absence in very real ways.
When a horse is moved away, grief can be especially confusing. Unlike death, where the herd can often see and understand that their friend is gone, a move leaves an open question: the friend is simply missing. Horses may spend days or even weeks calling, pacing fence lines, or searching, as if hoping the companion will return. The lack of closure can make the adjustment longer and more stressful.
Grief in horses may look like:
- Calling or pacing for their missing friend
- Loss of appetite or lowered energy
- Withdrawal or seeming âshut downâ
- Sometimes even physical signs of stress, like weight loss
Just as with people, grief looks different for every horse. Some may recover quickly, while others take a long time to adjust. Support, routine, gentle companionship, and patience all help a horse navigate this tender time.
When we recognize that horses grieve, we can better support themâoffering kindness instead of expecting them to âjust get over it.â
Because in the end, grief is not a problem to fix, but connection with nowhere to go. And horses, like us, feel that connection deeply. â¤ď¸