12/01/2026
Choosing peace is a lot like choosing to get sober. We often want to do it for others, but when we do it for ourselves first, then others benefit.
We also often try to create peace for others—supporting, guiding, or even “fixing” them. But if we haven’t gone through our own self-learning, if we haven’t made the choice from a place that feels authentic, aligned, and empowered, the peace we’re trying to offer can’t be sustained.
Even with the Trust Technique, the trap can be trying to get peaceful just to stop a behavior in our animals. True peace starts with us, and everything else flows naturally from there.
I can remember days when I tried to force peace for myself or another, and it just didn’t work. Peace and unpeace can’t exist in the same place at the same time. Real transformation happens when we change our own mind about something—when we perceive things differently. As Maya Angelou said, “When you change the way you look at something, the thing you are looking at changes.”
You don’t meditate, get present, or find peace of mind once or twice and have it forever—just like one workout or one healthy meal doesn’t transform your body. It’s the consistent, authentic practice that creates lasting change.
I received this beautiful insight from a client recently:
“Four days of practicing it on myself regularly allowed me to see the pattern in another sentient being.”
Wow—how beautifully stated. Practicing what feels authentic and aligned for ourselves empowers us to truly support others—both people and animals.
Reflection for you:
Have you ever noticed that working on your own peace changed how someone—or your animal—responded?
What small practice helps you reconnect with peace for yourself, rather than trying to fix something outside?
I’d love to hear your experiences—share in the comments! 🌿