
05/08/2025
Why I am fine with my dogs not liking many other dogs!
Where your dog gets their reinforcement is where they will seek future reinforcement. If your dog gets most of their physical and emotional needs from playing with other dogs, you will find your relationship strained.
We see dogs in classes all of the time who can barely function, let alone learn, because they are so focused on the other dogs in class. We can immediately tell the dogs that have been conditioned to get over-stimulated at the sight of another dog.
They are so focused on the other dogs, they are often completely unaware of the handler on the other end of the leash. If you can't get your dog to redirect focus back to you and their whole world is about nothing but the other dog, you're success in training will be limited and your relationship with your dog could be one of frustration rather than joy.
My 4 Rules of Dog Play
1. I MUST KNOW AND TRUST THE OTHER DOG
My dogs are part of my family and my sports partners. I adore my dogs and I also put a lot of time and effort into my dogs - with hundreds of hours of training, daily care, health care, mental stimulation, etc.
I work hard to provide my dogs with everything they need to be well-rounded, upstanding canine citizens. I'm NEVER going to willingly take a chance that a random encounter with a dog I don't know undoes any or all of that work. It's simply not worth the risk to me.
2. THE OTHER DOG MUST BE FRIENDLY
This seems obvious, right? Who would allow their dogs to play with dogs who aren't friendly?
Most people will agree with this rule, but how do you know if you don't know the dog very well? Random dogs on the street may appear friendly until they don't. Countless times, I've heard well-meaning people give bad advice about socializing aggressive dogs at the local off leash park.
It's a commonly suggested tactic - if he's aggressive, allow him to work it out by throwing him into play with other dogs. First, this is definitely NOT the way to solve aggression issues. Second, I'm sure none of us want our dogs to be the brunt of such an experiment.
I must feel confident that those dogs I let mine interact with are going to be safe companions for mine. No questions.
3. THEY MUST MATCH MY DOG'S PLAY STYLE
Some dogs like to wrestle, some run like the wind and others like to body slam. Mismatched play styles at running speeds can cause injury quickly.
Imagine a dog running as fast as possible and body slamming another dog. Imagine a dog who loves to wrestle trying to pin a dog who prefers to run and be chased. Mismatched play styles can cause injury, frustration or fights quickly in the right conditions.
This should also include shapes and sizes of dogs. A small dog can ignite prey drive in a larger dog and that can spell disaster. Even without that danger, a misplaced paw from a Great Dane can accidentally kill a toy breed. Caution should always be taken when dealing with the extremes in dog sizes. As cute as it may be to watch a Mastiff playing with a Yorkie, the inherent risks are much higher.
4. THEY MUST BE UNDER GOOD VOICE CONTROL
This, I consider an absolute must. Outside of a Puppy Class during the critical socialization period, I don't allow any play with dogs who can't be stopped or called out of play immediately by voice alone.
Situations can change quickly when dogs are playing. If one dog is starting to get overstimulated or frutstrated, it's very important to be able to quickly recognize that and stop the play immediately with your voice. Then you can make the dogs take a break to calm the stimulation down. That could be the difference between a great play session and one that ends in a fight.
Remembering that play and exposure are very different things, once your dog is over the critical socialization period, there is NO TRUE NEED FOR THEM TO PLAY WITH OTHER DOGS, but there are some benefits. Good exercise and fun are among those benefits, but you must consider all things when deciding about dog play.
With a few rules and some caution, you can reap the benefits of play without the dangers.