HypnoBirthing

08/21/2022

https://www.facebook.com/525239901/posts/10159476953674902/?d=n

12/15/2021

For those who are lucky enough to have their parents in their lives…

https://spotlightstories.co/why-kids-need-their-grandparents/?utm_source=page_sm&utm_medium=facebook&utm_campaign=e1339474-b14b-49e4-a373-3fb6ede9389a&utm_content=parents&fbclid=IwAR0KMefbk-xtCl7nH4uK-1hmj665YJOKYJh6tLMP0Z1p-d7CEeNVgObOwk4

Children need their grandparents more than we realize.

11/07/2021

When my kids were little no one understood how I chose to parent and many were critical. I didn’t really care because I parented with my gut instinct, of course it wasn’t always right, but it usually worked out ok.
Tada…years later it comes with a name,
attachment parenting.

Soon there will be closed doors and independence, and we will pine for the days when she needed to feel our hand on her back before she could sleep.

08/11/2021

Perfect for people like me who love to snuggle babies!

https://www.parents.com/baby/all-about-babies/snuggling-your-baby-may-affect-their-dna-says-a-new-study/

Little ones' development may very well be influenced by how much (or how little) close, comforting contact they receive, researchers note.

07/28/2021

Who is talking about s*x?

“A good place to start talking about s*x is by using the correct anatomical names for body parts. When we use euphemisms, we send the message to our children that these parts of their bodies are shameful or taboo, and that they shouldn’t come to us with questions about them.”

When a friend of mine took her kids to the pediatrician’s office a few weeks ago, her 7-year-old daughter noticed a birth-control poster and asked her about it. Soon after, her 4-year-old son began peppering her with s*x questions too: “But Mom, why would a p***s ever go into a va**na? Did Dad p...

06/24/2021

I loved sports, played them all, but not all kids do…

https://messaging-custom-newsletters.nytimes.com/template/oakv2?campaign_id=118&emc=edit_ptg_20210623&instance_id=33583&nl=nyt-parenting&productCode=PTG®i_id=87772986&segment_id=61454&te=1&uri=nyt%3A%2F%2Fnewsletter%2F2cbbc4f9-8cd5-5308-bd17-a04db0692992&user_id=e30c5f4fcb2a46be9b46d910e5d9739c

As someone who came of age during the late 1990s, when the cultural messages around the female body were demented, and Britney Spears’s bronzed abdomen was considered an attainable and appropriate goal, playing sports was one of the few things that allowed me to feel good about myself. Sports made...

05/27/2021

Fascinating and beautiful

03/30/2021

Something everyone needs to know:

https://youtu.be/dj7o8GMv4os

For more information on all things motherhood, follow on Instagram: .trippThis video intended to provide instruction on how to help infants when a choki...

03/20/2021

If anyone who qualifies wants to be in this study... https://m.facebook.com/StatesAssembly/photos/a.175259416175857/1417488505286269

Have you given birth in the last five years?

The Health and Social Security Panel are asking recent mothers for their experiences of maternity care in Jersey.

All responses will remain anonymous and the survey will remain open until 1 April.

Complete the survey here: http://bit.ly/2QdWxl7

03/19/2021

A heavy read: A grown man looms behind my three-year-old daughter. Occasionally he will poke or tickle her and she responds by shrinking. Smaller and smaller with each unwanted advance. I imagine her trying to become slight enough to slip out of her booster seat and slide under the table.

When my mother views this scene, she sees playful taunting. A grandfather engaging with his granddaughter.

“Mae.” My tone cuts through the din of a familiar family gathering together. She does not look at me.

“Mae.” I start again. “You can tell him no Mae. If this isn’t okay you could say something like, Papa, please back up—I would like some space for my body.”

As I say the words, my step-father, the bulldog, leans in a little closer, hovering just above her head. His tenebrous grin taunts me as my daughter accordions her 30-pound frame hoping to escape his tickles and hot breath.

I repeat myself with a little more force. She finally peeks up at me.

“Mama . . . can you say it?”

Surprise. A three-year-old-girl doesn’t feel comfortable defending herself against a grown man. A man that has stated he loves and cares for her over and over again, and yet, stands here showing zero concern for her wishes about her own body. I ready myself for battle.

“Papa! Please back up! Mae would like some space for her body.”

My voice is firm but cheerful. He does not move.

“Papa. I should not have to ask you twice. Please back up. Mae is uncomfortable.”

“Oh, relax,” he says, ruffling her wispy blonde hair.
The patriarchy stands, patronizing me in my own damn kitchen. “We’re just playin’.” His southern drawl does not charm me.

“No. You were playing. She was not. She’s made it clear that she would like some space, now please back up.”

“I can play how I want with her.” He says, straightening his posture.

My chest tightens. The sun-bleached hairs on my arms stand at attention as this man, who has been my father figure for more than three decades, enters the battle ring.

“No. No, you cannot play however you want with her. It’s not okay to ‘have fun’ with someone who does not want to play.”

He opens his mouth to respond but my rage is palpable through my measured response. I wonder if my daughter can feel it. I hope she can.

He retreats to the living room and my daughter stares up at me. Her eyes, a starburst of blue and hazel, shine with admiration for her mama. The dragon has been slayed (for now). My own mother is silent. She refuses to make eye contact with me.

This is the same woman who shut me down when I told her about a s*xual assault I had recently come to acknowledge.

This is the same woman who was abducted by a carful of strangers as she walked home one night. She fought and screamed until they kicked her out. Speeding away, they ran over her ankle and left her with a lifetime of physical and emotional pain.

This is the same woman who said nothing, who could say nothing as her boss and his friends s*xually harassed her for years.

This is the same woman who married one of those friends.

When my mother views this scene, she sees her daughter overreacting. She sees me ‘making a big deal out of nothing.’ Her concerns lie more in maintaining the status quo and cradling my step-dad’s toxic ego than in protecting the shrinking three-year-old in front of her.

When I view this scene, I am both bolstered and dismayed. My own strength and refusal to keep quiet is the result of hundreds, probably thousands of years of women being mistreated, and their protests ignored. It is the result of watching my own mother suffer quietly at the hands of too many men. It is the result of my own mistreatment and my solemn vow to be part of ending this cycle.

It would be so easy to see a little girl being taught that her wishes don’t matter. That her body is not her own. That even people she loves will mistreat and ignore her. And that all of this is “okay” in the name of other people, men, having fun.

But. What I see instead is a little girl watching her mama. I see a little girl learning that her voice matters. That her wishes matter. I see a little girl learning that she is allowed and expected to say no. I see her learning that this is not okay.

I hope my mom is learning something, too.

Fighting the patriarchy one grandpa at a time.

By Lisa Norgren
Photo: TheGuardian

02/04/2021

A well written raw share of emotions:

I recently had a meeting with a physiotherapist and a wheelchair vendor — over Zoom, of course — to choose a wheelchair for my 5-year-old son. He has outgrown the biggest “regular” stroller available, dragging his feet in the snow when we go for family walks. And although he is able to walk ...

01/10/2021

01/10/2021

Just read this:

01/10/2021

Just a little something I enjoy reading:

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If you have been struggling to focus on parenting this week, you’re not alone — even the experts are finding it hard to be the grown-ups in the room. Lisa Damour, a psychologist who writes the Times’s adolescence column, gave us a lovely essay about how watching a mob descend on the National C...

12/17/2020

https://www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/you-can-skip-the-first-few-seasons-of-your-childs-life-because-it-doesnt-really-get-good-until-season-6?fbclid=IwAR23f_Yds1thJbLH9n5Te6pHufEDOVvLzVXPGRkHZD4DAgA8Uy-3KEpMB20

Have I told you about the show we’ve been bingeing? You have got to watch Your Child’s Life. We are obsessed. It doesn’t get good until like Season...

09/28/2020

Have you seen this?
How amazing!!!

Hugging Hazel

https://hugginghazel.com/?fbclid=IwAR3aywWlFAzSglgQjotAwYa5GHuYmq35Xxd7iJ5EQLUL9nyYWcQ33FrNs1U

Hugging Hazel is a premium unis*x baby wrap baby carrier. It has a simple pull-over design, is very comfortable and secure, and made in Canada using Tencel and organic cotton. Hugging Hazel is a hip healthy product and compliant with US standards for baby wraps and carriers.

09/16/2020

Oh so true... the worrying . Not sure about the “not my concern” line, I think they are always our concern, always and forever, that’s what parenthood is all about.

09/15/2020

You’re doing a great job!!!

Remember that, we are all just doing our best.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/09/10/parenting/mom-shame-coronavirus.html

With myriad back-to-school options to choose from, moms’ groups have hit judgment overload.

07/22/2020

One teacher’s perspective:

https://blog.usejournal.com/i-spent-three-weeks-in-school-with-kids-under-covid-19-21b78c1a9339

I just spent three weeks teaching in a school with kids in the classroom.

07/15/2020

The saddest story; A good reminder

https://community.today.com/parentingteam/post/my-son-drowned-and-in-my-last-video-of-him-all-i-see-is-a-puddle-jumper

My 3 year old son. Just two hours after this video was taken, I would pull his lifeless body out of this same pool. How can a video so short...

06/27/2020

Glad I’m not alone:

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/06/25/parenting/moms-friends-fight.html?referringSource=articleShare

Those bonds forged when you have babies don’t always last.

06/21/2020

And this one:

Interesting 🧐
The New Zealand p**n ad designed to protect children
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-53103684

Many children learn about s*x via online p**nography. New Zealand warns this is not exactly ideal.

06/21/2020

A scary reality:
https://youtu.be/89jOufetX1c

40% of young Kiwis have online interactions with people they’ve never met in real life. Get help & advice at keepitrealonline.govt.nz

06/10/2020

Making little people happy even in Covid times. A distance visit from a princess is better than no visit at all.

05/31/2020

The perfect physical distance activity for kids:

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05/09/2020

I have no affiliation to this product, just thought it would be useful. I would have loved it, instead I was busy making my own version with towels..... lots of has changed in 30 years.

05/07/2020

I heard Jewel speak tonight and thought she was fabulous

https://www.jewelneverbroken.com/

Understand your life so you can heal and become never broken.

04/18/2020

A remarkable site, thank you Mother.ly.

https://www.mother.ly/this-is-birth/this-is-birth-a-hypnobirthing-story?jwsource=cl

Watch this mama give birth at home while practicing hypnobirthing, which focuses on specific relaxation and calming techniques that help manage pain during labor. "I remember how calm and relaxed the mom was. During the labor, classical music was playing and she moved to the music. I know other wome...

04/03/2020

I don't know who wrote this. ♥️

We fell asleep in one world, and woke up in another.

Suddenly Disney is out of magic,
Paris is no longer romantic,
New York doesn't stand up anymore,
the Chinese wall is no longer a fortress, and Mecca is empty.

Hugs & kisses suddenly become weapons, and not visiting parents & friends becomes an act of love.

Suddenly you realise that power, beauty & money are worthless, and can't get you the oxygen you're fighting for.

The world continues its life and it is beautiful. It only puts humans in cages. I think it's sending us a message:

"You are not necessary. The air, earth, water and sky without you are fine. When you come back, remember that you are my guests. Not my masters."

03/26/2020

One teacher’s perspective