07/28/2025
You’re allowed to have hard days.
You’re allowed to get overwhelmed.
You’re allowed to feel like you messed up, and still be a good horseperson.
Doing this work isn’t a straight line progression. It’s not all halterless liberty in lavender fields with feel good moments only.
You ever walk away from your horse and think, “Maybe I’m the problem”?
Yeah. Me too.
Some days it feels like no matter how much you try, learn and care, it still falls apart.
Your horse looks tense. You feel frustrated. And then comes the shame spiral:
“I ruined it.”
“I should’ve known better.”
“I should’ve listened to my gut feeling.”
Hear me out. Give yourself some grace.
You are allowed to have hard days.
You are allowed to get overwhelmed.
You are allowed to feel like you messed up and still be a good horseperson.
You’re learning and so is your horse.
Sometimes growth looks like confusion, tension, silence, and tears. It gets messy every now and then.
Doing this work isn’t a straight line progression. It’s not all halterless liberty in lavender fields with feel good moments only.
It’s crying in the truck after a 15-minute groundwork session that triggered your own nervous system and pushed your buttons.
It’s realizing your horse isn’t the only one who’s been piling up emotions to then eventually let them burst out. It’s holding the lead rope being insecure about the next step, wondering if you’re even enough.
But here’s what your horse knows:
You’re showing up.
You’re trying.
He doesn’t want perfection.
He wants presence and honest conversations, and you’ve got more of that than you give yourself credit for.
So go ahead, cry it out or be angry at yourself for a minute. Breathe. Regulate. Reflect.
And then?
Try again. Not because you failed, but because these moments that tear us down and make us question ourselves, and the reflections that come from them are needed in order to grow and do better. You’re planting seeds today for tomorrow’s magic.