08/07/2022
Love this post, but don’t love that you had to say no twice! ☹️
Well said Canine Compassion GP 👏🏼
PSA: The word "no" still means NO.
I'll never stop advocating for a dog's space, but man does it ever get tiring sometimes when there are people who think that the request "no" does not apply to them.
I occasionally walk Bella, a 2 year old German Shepherd who lacks confidence in herself. This can make her anxious around loud, unfamiliar objects, strange people, and dogs.
I like to start our walks by putting her nose to work, playing the "take it" game in a nearby field. This gets her focusing on a task, slowing her mind and easing her racing emotions. Since the field is next to a playground, sometimes there are children playing on it; learning to focus on a task with children in the area is good socialization for a young dog!
Today, a child came much too close for Bella to focus and I needed to advocate for her personal space. When we approached the field, a young child lurked towards us on their bike, asking if they could pet my dog. I politely said, "No, she's not friendly," and hustled from the sidewalk onto the grass. Bella was eager to get to work, sniffing around for the treats I was tossing as we moved through the field.
Though we were a couple hundred feet from the playground, I heard movement behind me that sounded quite close. I turned my shoulders, only to see that the young child had come back- and a LOT closer than the first time- to try their luck at petting Bella 🤦 I immediately put my palm out in front of me and sternly said, "PLEASE GIVE US SPACE. She will bite you!" ✋
I get that children don't necessarily understand that not every dog is a gentle giant, but that does not mean I'll be any more tolerant of them invading the space of the dog I am with. There are many dogs who are actually MORE triggered by children than they are of adults! Because this specific child felt that it was okay to disregard my first denial at their request to pet Bella, I made it very clear why I didn't want them near us- I had to word it in a way that they would understand.
Would Bella have actually bit the child? Probably not. However, there's no way that this kid would've understood me if I explained, "She's still a young pup who is properly being socialized to new, unpredictable environmental factors, so children can make her anxious." Honestly, adults don't understand statements like that half the time so I always try to make things simple and to-the-point.
Why this child was unsupervised in the first place, asking a strange person if they could pet their strange dog, I don't know. It's important to teach children to respect others' personal space, *especially* if they have a dog with them! It's much more appropriate to admire the puppy from afar. If you DO ask if you're allowed to approach the puppy and are told "no" as a result, no means NO, not "ask me again and I might say yes."