14/05/2024
De bonnes paroles sur le vrai leadership. ❤️
What is good leadership?
When you’ve seen it and felt it, it’s life changing.
Plenty of people are in charge- anyone can take control and tell others what to do and how, but few can lead.
I’m self employed for a reason - I have some personality strengths or flaws, depending on who you ask- and they make me very independent. I don’t take orders well from tyrants, which is probably most bosses and leaders.
But a good leader makes you melt - not because they want to control you, not from fear or anxiety they drive into you, judgement and consequences threatened upon you- a good leader inspires, and makes you feel safe. And when you feel safe, you can be guided.
It’s impossible to really guide anyone or anything when they’re more worried about their safety, physical or emotional, than what you’re asking. I believe this is something most of us can relate to on one level or another.
It’s essential for the leader to truly understand those they’re leading - otherwise there will be some form of resistance or bracing. A leader is vigilant to the needs of those they seek to guide: meaning they get down to their level with frequency and without shaming.
A good leader is together themsleves : they can check their emotions, admit to their faults and seek to repair when damage is done. They do not blame, but fill in gaps, and provide resources and skill sets. They take ownership.
A good leader leads by example: being emotionally and physically balanced before giving directives, and is disciplined enough to never give out these directives without centering themselves first.
A good leader has clear parameters and boundaries, but is soft in tone: they can afford to be because they are respected for what they provide.
That’s the secret here: they provide for others-
Anyone can boss others around. The difference between a petty tyrant and a leader is all in the character of the person in charge.
So when you take the helm, you show those you lead who you are. And who you are is a daily choice you make, completely up to you.