11/26/2025
Beautifully said 🐾❤️
A Letter to the Purebred Breeder Who Doesn’t Believe in My Goldendoodles
(from one breeder’s heart to another)
Dear Purebred Breeder,
I want to start by saying this:
I respect you.
I respect the history, the preservation, the structure, the predictability, the decades of dedication behind the dogs you love.
We may walk different paths in the dog world,
but we both care deeply about producing puppies with intention, responsibility, and devotion.
You breed for preservation.
I breed for purpose.
And I want to share what that means from my heart not to argue or convince you, but simply so you can understand the “why” behind what I do.
Because I know some of you look at Goldendoodles and see “mixed.”
“Designer.”
“Not pure.”
“Mutts.”
“Not predictable.”
“Not real.”
But if you looked through my eyes, even for a moment…
you’d see something much different.
• I Don’t Raise Goldendoodles to Replace Purebreds I Raise Them to Fill a Need
Not every family wants a show dog.
Not every family needs a working dog.
Not every home is built for high drive or heavy structure.
Not every owner is prepared to handle a dog bred for specific historical tasks.
But every family deserves a dog that brings comfort, stability, loyalty, and companionship.
That’s where my purpose begins.
My Goldendoodles may not have a breed club behind them,
but they have purpose behind every generation.
Purpose behind every pairing.
Purpose behind every hour I spend raising these babies from womb to home.
They are therapy-leaning companion dogs, intentionally created from two incredible breeds with traits that beautifully complement one another.
Not accidental.
Not sloppy.
Not random.
Intentional.
• I Know What I Breed and More Importantly, Why
I’m not confused about what a Goldendoodle is.
I don’t consider them “purebred.”
But I know they are pure in all the ways that matter to the families who take them home:
Pure joy.
Pure gentleness.
Pure emotional intelligence.
Pure willingness to please.
Pure connection.
I’ve seen them transform children’s lives.
I’ve watched them become emotional anchors during hard seasons.
I’ve seen them soften grief, anxiety, loneliness, and fear.
I’ve watched marriages heal, kids open up, and families reconnect all because of a puppy that wasn’t bred for rings or ribbons, but for something softer…
something human.
That is the purpose behind my program.
• I Raise My Puppies With the Same Level of Care You Do Just With a Different Goal
Like you, I health test.
Like you, I plan generations ahead.
Like you, I study structure, coat genetics, temperament, and lines.
Like you, I make decisions with responsibility, not convenience.
Like you, I cry when things go wrong, and celebrate when things go right.
I pour myself into these puppies:
the curriculum, the early exposure, the desensitizing, the shaping, the hours spent cleaning, bottle-feeding, monitoring, grooming, evaluating.
I don’t cut corners.
I don’t breed every heat.
I don’t breed for “rare colors.”
I breed for temperament first, always.
You may not believe in my mixes
but I hope you can see the heart and commitment behind how they’re raised.
• We’re Not Opponents We’re Just Serving Different Families
Purebred breeders serve families who want history, tradition, stability, and function.
I serve families who want gentleness, softness, intuition, and companionship.
And there is room in the world and in the dog community for both.
Your work matters.
My work matters.
Our goals are simply different.
But our hearts?
They’re not so different at all.
We both love our dogs beyond words.
We both lose sleep over puppies.
We both sacrifice.
We both care more than most people will ever understand.
And if you could see the families my Goldendoodles heal…
if you could see the impact they make…
if you could see the love they give…
You might not ever choose to breed them
but you would understand why I do.
With respect,
and with so much heart,
Holly
Milk & Honey Doodles🍯
