
21/02/2025
What one trait unites all truly great competitors in all scenes, be it athletes, esports, dog trainers or even dog breeders? How do you truly get to the top?
📢 You must be able to take everything that goes wrong as an opportunity to learn.
When things don't go your way, it's easy to start blaming external issues; maybe the surface was slippery, your computer was lagging, the lights were too bright, the dog just had poor genetics (for owners) or the feeding wasn't exactly up to your standards (for breeders). Maybe some of these were true, but it gets tiring to find a place to place your blame every time. You get defensive and angry, and become an unpleasant person to be around. What if, every time there was an issue, the first thing in your mind was "what could I personally have done better?". This doesn't mean you are to blame for everything, and that is why I add:
📢 You must be able to let go of placing blame altogether.
Things happen. Most times hundreds of small things together contributed to them happening. It is nearly always both wrong, and a waste of time to attempt to find somebody to blame. Even if it's you! Remember, this is important: You also cannot learn if you just blame yourself for everything. Breeders who hide problems in their lineage directly connect their own self-worth to their breeding, and every problem is a personal attack against their very being. This is wrong towards the breeder themselves (who has to live with the guilt), but also the people who need information about different bloodlines to do better themselves. Just focus on learning, and doing your part even better next time. That is the only thing you can control anyway!
These musings were inspired by some really great conversations about autoimmune illnessess and behaviour problems I've had with people this year. And of course, watching my dear nerd friends rage while playing online games, and allowing that to stop them from ever becoming truly great at them. 😎
Photo: my beautiful "Tikka", CARIBBEAN MIST VALENTINA