
15/07/2025
Preparing your horse to go away from home.
Students often ask how to prepare their horse to take them away, so this is something I have given a lot of thought to. Having also just taken my own 'new' horse away for the first time, this is fresh in my mind.
Because the truth is, we don't know what is going to 'happen' when we go to a new place. There are so many variables which we can't account for; how things occur at that yard or venue, other horses, other people, their dogs, the weather - you know. Life.
Instead of trying to second guess what will or won't take place when you leave the shire and venture forth, you can consider how you want things to feel between you and your horse at home - practice that - and then take it away with you.
When we're away, the truth of our daily interactions reveal themselves. My horse Des was a great leveler on that front - when I took him away and his anxiety would go up he would show me what I was not paying attention to at home. Mostly in his case I was missing all the small signs of worry and concern which became big markers of ,'You are of no use to me human' when we would leave home . All my small inconsistencies and not paying enough attention at home, became huge red flags of disconnect in a new situation.
I have apologised to Des and tried do better with him and other horses since then. I try when we go away not to mentally disappear in relationship to my horse. To stay just as consistent and supportive and noticing of what they notice in a new situation as in a familiar one. This can be tricky when there is so much newness and difference for you too . However, the flip side is that by committing to being consistent for your horse you can give yourself a helping hand. It gives us a purpose too.
You can't know what is going to happen when you go away, but you can make a choice about who you want to be. You can use your daily handling and interactions as an ongoing practice which you then get to test out in new places. You can be clear and consistent and focused on quality in all those small ways, so that you can practice them big when you leave town.
No one might notice that things are quiet and easy between you and your horse, as this work is unimpressive. It does not get rosettes or trophies. You might get told you have an easy horse, but don't mind. Because your horse is actually the only one whose opinion you really care about anyway.
As long as you take yourself with you when you and your horse leave home, all the rest of what happens is not your business.