Denise O'Reilly & The Dressage Secret

Denise O'Reilly & The Dressage Secret Coaching the details that change everything... Hi all, I am a dressage and biomechanics coach who has been practising my passion for just shy of 40 years.
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Through my work with rider biomechanics, and later applying equine biomechanics knowledge to my own training, I have been lucky enough to have travelled to many different countries, coaching what is now known as 'The Dressage Secret'. These are the little details, the small seat changes, and the innovative techniques that fill in the knowledge gaps which every rider has. I hope to give you some in

ventive solutions to the problems that bug us all - for none of us are perfect, and we all know how hard it is to ride well. In with that, I am hoping that this page will also provide a support network for you, as well as a safe space to ask questions, explore ideas and exchange knowledge. In my career I have been told that the horses I have chosen to train are somewhat 'ordinary'. After 4 decades of working with them, I have to wonder whether there is really such a thing. I believe that all horses are extraordinary - whether it is their fabulous athleticism, their quick mind, their generous nature, or simply their ability to accept us, along with all our flaws - each one teaches us and gives us so much. In amongst my 'ordinary' horses, was my beloved Piper - an Irish heavyweight hunter, with whom I competed at Advanced level, and with whom I also first learned to train the higher movements. I hope you enjoy being part of this community, and I hope your drive to learn new things never leaves you.

Fabulous day at Pen Llyn stud, with excellent tuition from Janine Pendlebury.Wonderful kind horses and people
29/10/2024

Fabulous day at Pen Llyn stud, with excellent tuition from Janine Pendlebury.
Wonderful kind horses and people

25/10/2024
Hi all - it's nearly the weekend! What are you all doing? Going to a show? Or a fun ride? Hope the sunshine prediction h...
24/10/2024

Hi all - it's nearly the weekend! What are you all doing? Going to a show? Or a fun ride? Hope the sunshine prediction holds true.
I have been so flat out with teaching, and yes, a little bit of riding too πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ that I haven't had a minute to post anything for ages.
As well as my riding school clients, I have been steadily growing the clinics outside TDS, as well as taking many more clients with their own horses to train back at base.
This has given me a lovely variety to teach, and it is always a pleasure when those combinations get the competitive success they deserve.
But it is also enormously satisfying when people just reach their own goals- be they ambitious or very modest, or when riders have that lightbulb moment or the horse changes underneath them.
Pure gold, and I do believe that your horse feels and responds to your joy when you feel genuinely thrilled with them.
Anyway, having said all that, I thought I would try to give those of you riding this weekend some food for thought...in the form of some of my recent reflections on training all the various combinations that I help.
🐴 Your horse probably prefers clarity from you than when you try to be super gentle with him. That doesn't mean be harsh or unkind - not at all. But it does mean be clear.
🐴 The first thing you need to do to give him clarity is to be clear in your own mind what it is you want - your mind is powerful, and with a nice clear visualisation, your horse will understand your intent.
🐴 Within that last sentence was one of the best answers to becoming a better horsewoman (or man) that simply doesn't occur to most humans. It is not a primary way for us to communicate - but it is for equines. Be more horse.
🐴 Clear intent needs to be confirmed by a clear aid, and always have a back up plan.
🐴 Reward every little try from your horse. Pat, (not whallop!) your horse, scratch him, use a soothing voice and let yourself be happy with what he has just offered you.
🐴 When your horse offers you a response that is right, more or less right, or vaguely on the right lines, repeat a minimum of three times so he can figure out what just happened there - then stop when you think the penny has dropped MORE THAN IT HAD AT THE BEGINNING - Don't hold out for perfection. That takes time. And probably we always have to accept 'Good Enough'.
🐴 When you are schooling, imagine what your horse feels like in himself - is he stiff to one side (almost certainly)? Does he overload his forehand? Does his back move softly or feel stilted? Use exercises that gently ease his stiffnesses, make his movement more fluid and help him to do the exercises that we want him to do a little easier. That kind of empathy is always appreciated by your horse.
🐴 Forward, Forward Forward! - is it the 'B' all and end all? Well, no....not as I see it anyway. So many people are totally obsessed with going hell for leather, when if we stopped to help balance and suppleness first, then forward is never quick or choppy, and doesn't result in tension. If you are sending your horse forward, and things don't get better, come back to balance, manoeverability, and suppleness.

Let's see if adding some of the above into your training helps you or your horse. Hopefully you can think about old problems in new ways and a breakthrough nearly always follows this.
Happy Riding everyone!
Let me know how you got on.

Insights from coaching - 'Don't Boil The Frog!' - a view of the pressures we use in training. Well, the aftermath of the...
17/09/2024

Insights from coaching - 'Don't Boil The Frog!' - a view of the pressures we use in training.
Well, the aftermath of the events just prior to the Paris Olympics continue to change our path, and this, I think is good.
Amongst my peers and fellow professionals we have had some very interesting discussions.
All of us, I believe, are thinking more deeply about how we coach, and in particular, how we keep riders being effective AND ethical.
In the real world, horses don't always comply with our requests, our aids are not always perfect, and our timing can be off.....
It got me thinking about how I decide as a rider how much pressure is enough, (with, for example, a leg aid or a rein aid).
Now I am totally with the programme of if the horse is not reactive enough then work from the ground can really improve things, but in the moment, whilst you are riding, you have already 'asked the question' - so what if the horse gives you a lukewarm response?
We all know the feeling of just wanting them to go forward, whilst desperately wishing they would do it from a lighter aid.
So, I think that because I have not just to do the best I can (to preserve? to improve?) training lighter responses, but I also have to coach the same skill too - I needed some way to explain to riders how not to fall into the trap of desensitising the horse by making too smaller increments in increasing pressure to elicit a response.
A frog will (apparently) boil to death if he is first placed in cold water, and the temperature is very gradually increased.
I have no idea whether this is fable or fact, and it sounds a truly awful thing to happen - but there is the parallel between the poor frog and the rider who is so reluctant to increase (leg or rein pressure) that they creep those pressures up, until the pressure that is actually needed to make something happen really is edging towards being unacceptable.
The other thing that happens, and this one is very common, is the 'nag nag nag' scenario, where the reluctance to find 'ethical effectiveness' results in 'one kick per stride' forever and ever until the end of time......
The rider often believes that it is the horse somehow at fault, and that they need to 'keep kicking or the horse will just stop'.
Of course, the uncomfortable truth is that this is the reaction they have unwittingly trained in.
The other uncomfortable truth is that this rider will often feel she is kinder to the horse because she hasn't ever increased pressure - she just pressures relentlessly, with no hope of the pressure ever stopping, and I would argue that this is perhaps not as kind as you might think.
So, in order to ride and teach this in a way that I can live with, and still look myself in the eye with, I came up with a bit of an easy to follow process -
The FIRST aid is always just the thought. The intent, you may call it, but it comes from between our ears, rather than between our heels.
Do not underestimate the efficacy of this aid - I have absolutely no idea HOW the horse knows - but they do always know. I suspect there are truths in there about how horses communicate with each other that make some people uncomfortable....it definitely isn't science / proven or any of that.
Ask me how much I believe this aid will work, and I will tell you that it's 200%.
Learn to develop this path, and every physical touch you need to make afterwards will be lighter.
Of course, it is way harder to learn (to believe?) than how to use your leg, but there you go.
It is worth the brain sweat, for sure.
The SECOND aid is the lightest one that I can possibly give - the one that I wish / hope my horse will go from.
This aid always gives the horse the opportunity to not need the next aid...
The THIRD aid is the one that definitely does NOT boil the frog. It goes directly up the pressure gradient to the one that will be effective within 3 seconds. Here I prefer a 'quickness' with the aids rather than a 'hardness'. So I love to do what I call 'speedy ankle waggles' or speedy whip taps - definitely not hard but usually the sheer speed is enough of a shock to make the horse go forward - effective but definitely not cruel. This aid does not stop until the horse's response is one of 100% commitment. If that takes 55 ankle waggles then so be it!
And let's be clear that I am in no way advocating 'hitting' a horse with a whip or 'kicking hard' or any of those things. Your touch can be very light if you develop enough speed with it.
The FOURTH aid should never need to happen, and if it does, then maybe there is some sort of danger that means you have to get temporarily tougher than you wish - maybe the horse is about to reverse into an oncoming vehicle or a deep ditch, that kind of scenario.
I call this my 'hard limit' (yes, you all remember THAT book, I'm sure).
I never want to go here, and if I find myself considering it for even a second, I need to get off, and rethink my question, train better, ride better and do better.
So the thing about my little stepped procedure is that, for the horse it needs to be predictable, and the same every time - training then happens really fast, and I can get to take my aid away really quickly, and only repeat it if absolutely necessary.
I have properly poked my head above the parapet here, and hopefully give each and every one of you food for thought, and a plan of your own that you can live with, and look yourself in the eye in the light of the decisions you make whilst riding.
I only ask, no boiled frogs please!
For me I think that slowly creeping up pressure is not the kindness people would hope for.
Be a calm, predictable and clear trainer for your horse, and I promise you better reactions and way less tension.
Happy riding!
(photo credit to Julie Noon - the rider is my beautiful trainer, Stef Eardley)

Well, I said a few weeks ago that I would write more about the issues raised by the Charlotte Dujardin video.The initial...
23/08/2024

Well, I said a few weeks ago that I would write more about the issues raised by the Charlotte Dujardin video.
The initial shockwaves have passed, many opinions have been given, and I suspect that I, like countless others, have been left wondering where this leaves us all as riders and competitors, but above all, horse lovers.
Firstly, let me say that some social media groups were adamant that the Equestrian side of the Olympic games would be full of cruel horrors, and set about pointing out every single imperfect moment to all who would join their 'battle- cry'.
Of course, there were some moments now and again, where things could have been more harmonious.
But by and large, I saw a change in the feel of these games as far as the riders were concerned; in the way they managed tension, (maybe inevitable in such a huge atmosphere) and in what they tried to achieve with their riding. Notably more ' open frames' and some produced a really beautiful picture.
Team GB was, of course, amazing. I don't think we could ever know the immense pressure they all rode under after the terrible revelations that happened just prior to the Games.
I do think that change is in the wind - change for the better, and that, like the aftermath of the Covid Pandemic, things will never quite be the same again.
This is good, I feel, as, into our 'old normal' had crept too many tense, 'leg-moving' horses, too much backward rein contact, too much 'accepted stress' in our horses, and definitely too much use of pressure to achieve a certain result.
Also too much rollkur, tight nosebands and tight curb chains, none of which sit comfortably with the public, let alone fellow equestrians.
So what can we hope for in our 'new normal'?
Well, I certainly think that the right discussions are being had - but are our governing bodies coming to the right conclusions?
The initial silence from the FEI did nothing to reassure us that 'things will be different from now on...'
Much like The Queen's silence after the death of The Princess Of Wales, the FEI's prolonged pause certainly didn't scream ' Right then! We can't have this sort of behaviour' - but more sort of murmured in the background ' now what are we going to do to mitigate this damage?'
I do think though, that what is becoming very clear is that we can't simply put our heads in the sand and blindly assume that riding horses will always be an ok thing to do just because it always has been.
The phrase ' sleepwalking into disaster' comes to mind, and now more than ever, we need to not just be seen to be advocating for our horses - but actually finding more ethical, empathetic ways to train them.
In our daily work with our equine partners, we need to give clear, well thought out cues for what we want, and give time for the horse to understand and build confidence in giving the desired response.
I also think that the whole CDJ episode has certainly given me (and hopefully all of us) much to think about, as both a rider and a trainer.
Specifically, how we apply 'pressure' - of rein or of leg - and our feel for timing as to when to remove that pressure.
These, if you like, 'micro-decisions' are going on constantly while we ride, and I have questioned myself about these decisions whilst riding and coaching.
For example - how much leg pressure is enough? Now, hang on, hang on, before anyone gets all righteous, I (we) know it SHOULD be light. We know a horse can feel a fly land on them.
In the fantastic land where unicorns fly, and all horses respond instantly to the lightest of touches, every time a cue is given, and never ever question what we have asked, I am sure this is true.
But, of course, that isn't always the case.
I think each rider needs to already have their limits set in their minds BEFORE they give any aid - how far will you go if that feather light touch should need some back up?
A touch with the whip? A firmer nudge with the leg? To what degree? We each have our own 'hard limits' (remember Fifty Shades of Grey??) - the places we absolutely won't go to. I know I do.
Has anybody else thought about this in the wake of that shocking video?
How many of us have revised our previous plan, or even thought consciously about it?
I know what I think is fair as a 'back up aid to the one that didn't work'.
I also know that if that then doesn't work I may well have asked my horse the wrong question, or asked in the wrong way, or, more likely, asked when either his mind or his body is not yet prepared or conditioned to get that answer right.
As always, it is our responsibility to get it right for our horses, and this deeply conscious thinking process is leading me to develop (hopefully) better, more empathetic training techniques (in a quest which never stops).
For me, the groundwork plays such a huge part in helping the horse to be prepared - we can guide him to desired responses with a little forethought and planning.
As for what will happen now in the wider equestrian community, I do not know.
Some factions seem hell bent on outlawing dressage - do they not think that other forms of riding will follow?
If we do not ride horses, how many would be suitable 'pets'?
How many people would choose such an expensive pet?
We may then be facing a horrendous situation where horses are abandoned, euthanased, or neglected in a field somewhere.
If only we could be more conscious of the repercussions of our words and what we seem to be heading towards.
We have really only one hope - more positivity, more kindness, more intelligent thought and education.
The 'Negative Nellies' of social media sites, can probably not now be silenced whilst they hurtle us all towards the death of 'the right to ride'.
All we can do is have openness, and honesty within our sports, and a charter maybe from our governing bodies that has some proper teeth. (And it does need proper teeth).
Bans, financial penalties, and disciplinary committees, with findings made public, WOULD have an impact.
But they really have to all be a bit more swift and decisive - come on FEI! Do something!
Maybe things would then swing the other way for a while before finally finding a sensible middle ground - but rather that then turn a blind eye to equine suffering.
For ourselves, as individuals, we CAN fight back against the awful wave of negativity.
Positive, well balanced articles have been appearing recently, in no way defending wrong - doers, but really making factual statements and informed comments about horse training, so that understanding of the real issues is highlighted.
If you see one of these lovely articles, based in fact not fiction, then share the heck out of it!
An in our 'own backyards' seek always to improve our knowledge.
Put horses before sport always, and take more time with training.
My friendship with my horses runs deep - and I'm not ready to give that up.
I hope I have given rise to a little discussion? (People who play nicely only).
Happy horsing everyone this weekend!

How teaching makes me feel...
22/08/2024

How teaching makes me feel...

Anna from Poland spent a couple of weeks with us recently. Daily lessons, and plenty of discussion, video analysis, and ...
15/08/2024

Anna from Poland spent a couple of weeks with us recently. Daily lessons, and plenty of discussion, video analysis, and making forward plans meant that she got a huge amount of learning done.

Just 2 senior ladies, doing their thing...
04/08/2024

Just 2 senior ladies, doing their thing...

Teaching at our dressage camp recently, I realised that my buddy here is doing better with Slimming World than I am....🀣...
02/08/2024

Teaching at our dressage camp recently, I realised that my buddy here is doing better with Slimming World than I am....🀣🀣🀣

So so proud of this pair! Danni Nicholson-Round and her gorgeous gelding Luka are winners of their Elementary Area Festi...
21/07/2024

So so proud of this pair! Danni Nicholson-Round and her gorgeous gelding Luka are winners of their Elementary Area Festival today and now off to The Nationals.
They have come so far this year, and have worked so hard, they deserve every bit of success they are getting.

A little news update on the shoulder injury I sustained in April - I am now driving again - hurray! This means that if y...
15/07/2024

A little news update on the shoulder injury I sustained in April - I am now driving again - hurray!
This means that if you can't get to my base at Tong, in Shropshire, I can come to you.
Happy to come for individuals or clinics.
Please get in touch if you would like me to come and help you with your horse, ridden lessons, dressage training, or groundwork.
Ah, the taste of freedom!

Some musings from this week's teaching...🐴Every rider brings a skill into my arena when I first meet them; they may be t...
14/07/2024

Some musings from this week's teaching...
🐴Every rider brings a skill into my arena when I first meet them; they may be talented riders generally, or not. Or talented for the canter, or the sitting trot. They may be exceptional in the lateral work - or none of the above. My best students are talented at learning how...at being in the moment, and having feel and empathy for the horse. This is truly a gift.
🐴Learning is hard. Riding well is hard. None of it comes that easily to any of us. Conditioning your body and mind make us 'fit to ride'. Open-mindedness is much harder when you have years of experience, but in recent times I have met 2 or 3 riders whose mindset is unbelievably open, despite a lifetime of lessons, being told one way (which may not sit comfortably with you) for decades, and then deciding - 'no, I am going to be kinder - a more ethical rider. I am going to learn to train my horses in a way that reduces their stress levels and makes getting it right easy' - now that is impressive.
🐴Learning what your horse cares about changes your approach to riding and training. We have to put the effort in to understand the world from their point of view. Quite a lot of what we ask them to face is frightening, and also goes against their 'flight animal' nature - much of what we do, to them must seem utterly pointless. We have to reward them often, and teach them with clarity and patience. Repeat without drilling them, stop before they are tired, break things down into smaller elements so that we can be understood. If we praise in ways they understand (friendliness - a scratch, a soft low, voice, our positive emotion, which they always feel)- training and learning then progresses much more quickly.
Enjoy a peaceful Sunday - and make time to hug your horse. ❀️

Thank you beautiful CJ - just the safe conveyance I need to get back on board
09/07/2024

Thank you beautiful CJ - just the safe conveyance I need to get back on board

08/07/2024

Love, love love teaching riders how their bodies' can have such a major effect on the way the horse goes.
Here, regular rider Celia, rides TDS schoolmistress Kia, and we are starting to work on how the backward phase of the inside seatbone in canter has the opportunity to connect with the inside hindleg and ask for more 'sit' or (hock bend to lower the croup).
Tricky on Kia, who at 20 years young, is capable of this, but would rather not if she can get around it. She prefers to canter quarters in, a way of avoiding the difficulty, and of course if we allow this, long term she will become less flexible as well as weaker - something to definitely avoid in an older horse.
So our seat quietly insists, in effect, almost a 'physiotherapy from on board' approach.
It is unusual to think of a backwards phase of the seat in canter, as everyone normally focuses on the forward swing of the hips - but it is there, between each of those forward swings, as a sort of forgotten (long lost?) cousin, who once you see and acknowledge, you end up noticing all the time!
Look out for it, feel it happening, and know that right there, that is your moment that you can influence the hindleg during the canter stride.
Getting good at this is part of what brings about collection - a really great feeling once you have it!
Happy cantering!

Coco and Clare, last weekend at Newbold Verdon EC. 😍😍😍(Photo by Barry Barnard Photography)
15/06/2024

Coco and Clare, last weekend at Newbold Verdon EC. 😍😍😍
(Photo by Barry Barnard Photography)

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