04/05/2023
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There is a lot of pressure on dog guardians in today’s world. The over saturation of social media videos of dogs performing these intricate tasks, or trained to near robotic performance has left a lot of the general public feeling like they don’t measure up. I even sometimes find myself caught up in the comparison. Especially when my dogs aren’t necessarily behaving perfectly. Or when someone side eyes the way my rez dog is often my “wild child.”
The first thing to remember is that what you see from influencers is designed to sell you something. What you often see from trainers who are more concerned with flash than substance is designed to sell you something. It’s not real, and it often hides a very ugly truth of how that dog was really taught those things, or how that dog lives.
The second thing to remember is what I tell clients and folks who ask me about a dog sleeping on the bed, getting on the couch, who has zoomies around the living room careening off the armchair, or a dog who sits and watches their guardian eat, or the guardian who feeds their dog off their plate. I tell them all the same thing: “If it’s not a problem for you, then it’s not a problem.” As long as no one is being hurt by the behavior, and you don’t mind it? It’s not a problem. Just because your Aunt Karen hates dogs on the furniture and is grumpy about the dog hair on your couch when she visits does not mean you need to banish your dog from the sofa.
My dogs are far from perfect. But my dogs are perfect for me. They meet me needs and expectations. I find Naiche’s wild child behaviors delightful. She is full of energy and intelligence and a strong independent streak that amuses me daily. Branch talks to the people he knows well and is excited to see. Mangos licks the dishes as we are loading the dish washer. Kaylee will crash through and over anything to get to the ball that I just accidentally kicked under my feet. Are these behaviors other might find annoying or even “bad” ? Maybe. Do I care? Not really. Because I refuse to allow another person’s expectations ruin the joy I take in my own dogs.
My dogs are not calm dogs. I do not personally gravitate towards a chill dog as I am a busy , active and opposite of chill human. My dogs do as they are asked when they are asked. They have solid recalls and know how to perform a variety of behaviors to achieve whatever end goal I am seeking from them. But I am not interested in defining a “Good dog” as a dog who never expresses a joy or feeling that is “too big.” A good dog is defined by YOU as an individual dog’s guardian, not by any one else.
Don’t let someone else tell you what you can and cannot enjoy from and with your dog. Define a good dog in terms that make you and your dog happiest.