12/04/2022
Puppy Blues. What the heck is that?
Puppy blues is a term describing an emotional state of feeling overwhelmed, sadness, fatigue, regret or anxiety many people feel after adding a puppy, or even an adult dog, to their household.
Sometimes, before we get a new puppy or dog, we build up ideas about how we expect things to go. We expect some accidents, we expect some chaos, we have grand plans of how well trained, cuddly or friendly our puppy or dog will be. Unfortunately, these expectations are often not met, dogs are living beings with their own unique personalities and sometimes that personality jars our expectations in ways we'd never considered.
Feelings of being inadequate as an owner, feelings of shame at our new dogs perceived issues, and feeling we are unable to "fix" them. Guilt that sometimes we regret even getting them in the first place. When we add another dog or puppy to a home with a resident dog, feelings of selfishness and guilt around the resident dogs life being turned upside down may creep in.
Puppy Blues can affect anyone, from someone getting their first ever dog, to someone getting their 11th. It can affect even seasoned dog professionals - many of our trainer colleagues have had tearful calls with each other about their new puppy.
Puppy Blues generally start a few days after bringing your puppy home, for some it can start after a few weeks, especially when rescuing an adult dog and they start to come out of their shells. Puppy Blues can last a few weeks to a few days.
It's OK. It's OK to not be ecstatic all the time with your puppy or new dog. It's OK to need a break. It's OK to not know all the answers. It's important to realise that you are not alone in feeling this way, you aren't a bad person for these feelings, and you aren't a failure as a dog owner for feeling these feelings.
The good news is, these feelings are temporary. They generally go away themselves after a few weeks. They may crop up again however, especially during developmental milestones for your dog, or major life events, usually with less intensity, and for a shorter time.
There are things that can be done to help alleviate these feelings;
✅️ Keep a record of progress, no matter how small! If your puppy managed to toilet in the right place 3 times yesterday, I guarantee that was more than a week before. That's a win! Looking back at the progress you are making helps put everything into perspective.
✅️Reach out. Talk to dog professionals, we've all been there at one point or another. Send your puppy for a trial night with your dog boarder, ask your trainer or walker for support.
✅️Practice selfcare. Take time to do something for you. Puppies can be all-consuming of our time and attention, which has a huge impact on our emotional wellbeing. Ask a friend to watch your puppy for an hour, or an evening, and do something just for you. Read a book, watch a movie, go out to a restaurant, get your nails done, finish that woodworking project you forgot about. Selfcare is not selfish, it's necessary, especially in times of upheaval and change.
If you need help, support or guidance, we are always happy to help. We've been there, we get it, we're here.