28/01/2025
Don't be hard on yourself...
Life can throw us many curve balls. They appear at any given moment and can turn your world upside down, sideways and backwards in one fell swoop.
This week I've been a therapist as well as a physiologist and sometimes I'm required to be. One of my clients broke down in tears this week over the condition of her horse because she was caring for her elderly parents as well as working full time. She couldn't believe the change in her horse. She has given her permission whilst remaining anonymous to let others know life happens...
This client has been with me since I started up almost 2 years ago and we have to maintain continuous exercises to keep her horse able to carry rider weight via the APL Sessions using a Pivo Camera, I have 4 clients who use the Pivo even one in the USA it's a fab bit of kit, but I digress...
The client has done the right thing as well as she was able, cared for her parents, paid her bills, and put her horse on full livery to compensate so she was well cared for even if she wasn't there to give the care. She seen her horse 3 days a week in between caring for her parents and working, the yard she chose was brilliant, the staff well trained, she done the best she could in her circumstances.
I received a total of 18 calls from my client in devistation regarding the utter lack of muscle her horse now has. She was so upset that her middleweight polo pony had no muscle at all along her back (8 months into caring for her parents). To quote her: 'OMG Ash she looks like she's an old nag she's only 18!' Whilst breaking her heart over the phone I reminded her, 'you are doing the best with the situation you've been given'
As horses get older, muscle will waste quicker, I took every phone call to assure my client we will rebuild her lovely gals back but her main concern right now is her parents. How about someone to ride her instead to maintain, it doesn't have to be a lesson. We agreed on a short term sharer we both know who has agreed to ride her pony 4x weekly to keep the muscle turning over just hacking.
The tears were flowing moreso because she was harshly judged by someone she called a friend... This friend got in her head and made her collapse sobbing she was a bad owner and she should give up her horse ... No she damn well shouldn't.
My point (you all know how I like to over describe) is that sometimes we are too harsh on ourselves. Most horses don't give a s**t if their in the field every day for a year, the downside is yes unless it's a natural habitat style field almost with plenty slopes etc then yes they will lose muscle, but it's not the end of the line even for older horses.
G is the best living proof of this, he's went from having bad atrophy in his shoulders, back and rump, to being fully muscled up, carrying my fat ass without an issue and he is of course the Saoirse TCS Pressure Tester Pony.
Life happens guys, most of us have been there, I've been there! You all know I was in and out of hospital for a year recently, and by god G looked like he was an old nag, but I'm rebuilding him slowly, even rising 25 he will rebuild his back, chest, backside etc...
So please, let's don't be too hard on ourselves, you are all doing the best you can, no one has the right to verbally judge you. They are entitled to their own opinions, the problem with humanity now - we've forgotten an important phrase :
"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all, get someone more diplomatic to say it"
So folks, keep your chin up, be kind, bring back the humanity I remember where we helped people before judging. Researched before hating, and thought before speaking. Enough is enough, bring back the proper horsey world with fully trained grooms who actually care, yard owners who actually care, horse people looking out for one another, friendly competitions without judgment. Bring humanity back guys...
Help before forming an opinion...
A. Bugla
Saoirse Equine
P.S. I got s**t for a fair few years for "having a kids pony a kid should have a love and I only done tricks and longlining with"
Hmm yes well that pony had an accident at 3yrs old, he was flipped on his back and his back couldn't carry weight PERIOD. However, the longlining done massive amounts for his bending and hill work exercises, and the tricks were a great stretch. Stop judging what you don't know.
Photo: my wee trick pony with the buggered back who I sadly lost this year to a broken leg. Drambuie, the one in a million pony who only caught for a few chosen people.