19/04/2024
Some great thoughts! Our horses are our therapy, it is our choice to enjoy them
Taboo Subject … 🥇🥈🥉
And a post which has taken me a few days to form & I’m still not sure I have worded this perfectly, but here we go.
🏆 Is it okay if I don’t want to compete ? 🏆
I had a friend recently express to me that she doesn’t want to compete and no longer gets any enjoyment out of being competitive, and it had taken her a while to feel comfortable to admit it.
This made me very emotional. 🥹
Why ? Because I was so HAPPY.
She knew what she wanted, she knew what makes her happy - the horses. Not the rosettes, not the posting on social media after being at a show…
But the horses.
Being around the horses, being in their company, continuing to improve them through regular training, driving out & enjoying the purity of the animal.
The horses ALWAYS have to come first. No matter what level you’re at. They are number 1.
She loves her regular training, loves improving the animal, but has no desire to put this improvement and knowledge towards competition.
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There seems to be a lot of pressure for people to compete.
‘What do you do with your horses?’ 🐴
‘What are your plans?’ 🐴
‘What is your next event?’ 🐴
And we are all guilty of asking these questions - without thinking, we mean it in a friendly and inquisitive way.
More recently I have realised how much these questions can affect the mental health of those who just want to enjoy their horses as pets or without the pressure or commitment of competing.
Sometimes you need someone external to tell you:
‘IT’S OKAY NOT TO COMPETE’.
🩷 Not competing does not make you any less of a horse-woman /man.
🩵 People who choose not to compete are no less knowledgable or less experienced around horses than those who do compete.
It’s also worth remembering we all have different lives …
Some have very competitive and stressful day jobs.
Some struggle mentally to get by day to day.
Everyone has different priorities in their lives.
You are not letting anyone - human or equine down if you don’t want to compete.
It’s all a personal choice and there is no right or wrong.
Is also okay if you thoroughly enjoy competing & this is what you want to do - I have nothing against this. Just this post’s focus is on the opposite.
Love to you all.
Have a lovely weekend ENJOYING your horses.
Remember how lucky we are. So very lucky. 🍀
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