21/06/2023
I didn’t really want to have to post this here. But in all honesty I need a platform to defend myself from some really nasty things that have been said about me by a fellow Breeder Fe Bear.
Following on from the post yesterday about Elune becoming really poorly and needing emergency surgery. I had used any savings I had towards other vet bills and personal unexpected expenses recently. Someone suggested a gofundme. I was faced with do or die, so hastily set one up. Soon after, I managed to agree a payment plan with the vets and the gofundme was taken down and my post(s) deleted.
However during the short time my post was active Fe Bear had commented that I was a scammer. Now I am not silly, and I am well aware that there are some really nasty, dishonest people in the world, so she is right in protecting her group from that.
But what is questionable is why my post was approved in the first instance, if she was just going to go on to call me a scammer?
Furthermore, I sent Fe Bear a direct message as I had deleted my initial post. I was courteous and explained my situation in far more detail than I should have needed to a complete stranger.
(see attached images of the full conversation)
Following this several more posts/comments were made about me telling lies and implying some pretty horrible things. None of which I was able to respond to or defend myself as I had been removed from the group and blocked.
The point of this post is not to create more drama, but to defend myself and stand up to this bullying behavior which I have seen one too many times since starting this hobby.
It’s okay to disagree with the gofundme. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. But what I don’t feel is okay is to disagree with it then go on to be nasty and make up half truths publicly bashing me.
A lesson I teach my kids is that not everyone has to be friends, but that doesn't mean you have to be enemies. Kindness doesn’t cost a thing but is also invaluable!
A few points I would like to further clarify are:
◾ Yes I set up a gofundme for emergency surgery. This was promptly taken down when another means of payment was arranged.
◾ Elune was not left to suffer while I tried to get others to foot the bill. Within 30 mins of an x-ray confirming her condition she was booked in for surgery. I would NEVER allow any animal to suffer least of all one of my pets!
◾ No, I am not going on holiday because I posted on my personal page looking for a dog sitter!! Fe Bear has put 2 & 2 together and come up with 5! I was asking for a dog sitter so that we can take 2 of my current litter over to a friend in Prague. The Courier cost was £450 per kitten so we used that towards travel and accommodation to take the kittens ourselves.
◾Yes I did call her a 'nasty name' I stated that she is clearly re****ed if after 3 hours of speaking to her she till cant grasp what I was trying to explain to her. I was upset with it all. What I have said has been shared for you all to see. I challenge Fe to prove otherwise and back her allegations of harassment.
I think it is a real shame this happened and furthermore that other breeders have been dragged into this for daring to defend me and speak out when they felt what was happening was not right.
As an adult I hoped this ‘mean girl’ vibe would have been left well behind. But it seems not. It is such a shame that others feel unable to speak out for the fear of repercussions.
I got into breeding and showing cats as a hobby, as I am a lifelong animal lover. I have been very fortunate to have an amazing mentor. But on more than one occasion I have been saddened by the actions of a small minority in the ‘cat community’ Surely we should all be supporting each other and lifting each other up, not dragging each other down!
Thank you for taking the time to read and for all the well wishes, I will keep you all updated on Elune as the day progresses.