
12/03/2025
Love this post! And so so true!!!
I’m going to keep saying this until I stop hearing horror stories about puppies being left to cry it out in their new homes
‘All of the rest of the family (2 dogs and 4 humans) are in the sitting room but the puppy has chosen to go in the kitchen (two rooms away) all on her own to sleep on the Big Dog Bed. It shows how secure she feels to not need to be with us all. She feels safe as we’ve never excluded her- never put her in a crate in another room etc or left her alone to get upset at night. She sleeps with me on the bed at night, she has as much cuddles and company (from humans and Sylvi) as she wants all day and the end result is that she feels secure, she feels safe and confident as she’s formed a secure attachment.
There’s no need to ‘start as you mean to go on’ with puppies and leave them to cry or exclude them. Just let them be fully part of your family and give them choices and the time to develop emotionally without stress. Really, all they want is to be fully integrated into your family and to feel safe. When they feel secure they can then cope with their own company, gradually and at their own pace. (Puppy is 8 weeks old in this photo and has been with me in foster and hand reared since she was 6 days old)’
This was 4 years ago today and this puppy has grown up to be the most fiercely independent dog I’ve ever had- we have zero separation issues and she’s not at all ‘clingy’ . She is brave as she had a safe and secure attachment at an early age. Please don’t ever worry that meeting your puppies needs will make them have separation issues as it’s entirely the opposite outcome ❤️
Laura McAuliffe Dog Communication 2025