28/12/2020
Wry interesting and worth considering..
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=3031136637120820&id=1607005836200581
Protecting our dogs and being their advocate.
Dogs are sentient beings and do have emotions.
So what?
Similarly to human beings our dogs have good days and bad days. They have some walks they love and some they don't.
They meet some dogs and may ignore them, play a little with consent, share some sniffs, clearly avoid them or take a dislike to them.
Would it be realistic to expect humans to enjoy every other human beings company because they are all humans?
Would it be realistic to punish a person for not wanting to interact with another person?
Why do we have the expecations that our dogs must get along with other dogs, whether familiar or not, in all environments, wherever they are, indoors, on a countryside walk, in woodlands or in a town or suburban streets?
Why do dogs get punished, told off, reprimanded for growling, lunging or barking at another dog?
There are some situations as humans when we have expectations and when we are expected to behave in certain ways. That dynamic changes but our emotions may not.
We may go into a shop or make a call to a utility supplier and expect a certain level of respectful communication and to be listened to.
We may be at work and expect a certain type of communication from our colleagues and our boss.
What happens when our expectations are not met?
It depends who we are in the dynamic of the situation.
If we are the customer we may complain if we don't get spoken to or listened to the way we expect. We may make it clear about 'who the customer is' and what we do expect and we could easily fall into conflict.
If we are an employee we may be spoken to by our boss in a way that is upsetting, whether intentional or perceived it is a negative feeling and experience but on top of that, we may feel supressed and unable to speak freely about how we feel out of fear. This can feel uncomfortable but we may not feel there is anything we can do about it or........
We may speak up and feel confident and have the necessary skills to be assertive and to communicate how we feel, that the we are being spoken to is upsetting and we may feel able to explain this in a non emotional way.
The response we get may be very positive.
If we snap back because we don't have the necessary communication skills or self esteem, or we feel we lack self worth or just cannot tolerate any more rudeness or aggressive behaviour because it has been going on for a period of time.......
The response we get may be very negative.
Living with dogs that are selective about other dogs they feel comfortable with or are sensitive to the space they need and the choices they need to make can be challenging, especially if we thought we would have a dog that we can walk anywhere, off lead, whenever we wanted to around any or as many dogs as we saw and our dogs really prefer their own company.
We may try to encourage them to like other dogs, to play with other dogs, to walk and or train in classes or do activities with other dogs. We may try lots of different methods and techniques to help our dogs like other dogs or at least not growl, bark and lunge at them.
Imagine an advert that guarantees to change your dog for life! That your dog's behaviour can be changed in minutes, forever and that your dog will be able to walk past any dog, any time and not growl, lunge or bark! There is a promise of your money back if you are not 100% satisfied and if your dog does not change their behaviour.
Imagine that you might not even have to do the work and that there is a service where you can send your dog to be fixed, for the rest of their life.
Imagine that you could have the option to do the work with the trainer, to see for yourself how your dog is going to be transformed, permanently.
Who wouldn't say a big fat YES to that?
It might be affordable or it might be over budget but who wouldn't find the cash with a full money back guarantee and a promise that the dog will never be aggressive, reactive, anti social or unfriendly ever again and that the dog can be walked anywhere at any time with as many dogs as there are around?
No risk?
Or is there?
Who is at risk?
What's the worst that could happen?
That all depends on the methods and techniques used, what the dog is subjected to and experiences, whether we believe that a sentient being can truly be 'fixed' for the rest of their lives, guaranteed.
What might we need to be aware of and look out for if we saw an advert and imagined our dogs being fixed for life and in such a short time too?
Some methods and techniques still in use in spite of being outmoded include 'corrections'. These look like a 'pop' of the lead to jerk the collar, 'quickly' and then released. Methods that are said to 'mimick what the mother dog would do to correct behaviour', to show the dog who is boss' and be a 'strong pack leader', startle devices like sprays, throwing disks on the ground near the dog, squirting water or using equipment like a prong or pinch collar, citronella collars, choke chains and electronic collars.
These methods and this equipment is still used today by people that are working with dogs. It is a human behaviour to want a quick fix, to feel the need to sort a dogs behaviour out quickly, to justify that it is in the dogs best interest for them to learn how to behave around other dogs and that we as owners must step up and take control.
What's wrong with that?
Go back to the beginning. Why are our dogs behaving the way they are? Are our expectations realistic? How would we feel if we were subjected to punishment in order for us to comply with someone elses expectations that were unrealistic? How quickly might we change our behaviour when punishment was used? Pretty quickly in many cases! How long would that change in behaviour last for? It could last quite a long time.
What might happen if we feel we have no choice, no influence, no say? We may become depressed and learn how to live a helpless life which may in turn make us feel physially and mentally unhealth and ill. We might bide our time and then let rip, we may try to run away and escape or we may turn our frustration and suppression towards our care givers or we may even start to self harm.
As amazing as quick fixes and money back guarantees may sound and whilst they may work for a certain period of time. I cannot think of anything worse than punishing a sentient being for behaving in a way that is expressing how they feel and that they need help to cope and support to learn new skills or are simply out of their depth.
As tempting as these 'permanant solutions' sound, there is always going to be a fall out and there is always going to be a loser. Whether that is the dog in question or the dog and care giver, a member of the public, a friend or visitor, a vet or other practitioner, there is no winner when punishment is used for a behaviour that is misunderstood, ignored or punished.
I have been told by professional people that work with dogs and have heard the discussions and seen the posts and adverts that claim these methods, techniques and pieces of equipment do not harm the dog. They are very convincing, especially if we want to believe and find a quick fix. So, convincing that people still subject their dogs to these methods.
This is not a judgmental post about trainers or care givers. There is no blame to be passed. No need to jump on any bandwagons about who does what, when, where or how.
This is a post about choices, awareness, compassion and empathy and about raising awareness about how we can be an advocate for our dogs by asking questions and getting curious about the why.
Why does my dog do this and why would I use any form of punishment and instead, consider how we can listen to our individual dogs needs and how we can support them to develop trust, confidence, skills and provide them with what they need for a quality of life that they feel safe in.