22/11/2025
When touch issues aren't actually about the touch itself.
I had some fantastic questions during a free intro call the other day.
Their dog has touch issues, but intermittently. They have investigated the pain route and have worked with several other trainers and behaviourists, but they were still feeling there was a missing puzzle piece.
They explained that the previous behaviourists homework and setups (counterconditioning touch by having touch cause good things) was feeling like it had limited benefit, because their dog likes touch in many situations, and is generally keen to opt into optional easy touch in return for food, so when they did easy set ups seeing if their dog would opt in for a snack, he generally did with gusto!
This was seeming to have limited benefit in the situations where they NEEDED to touch him even when he said “no thank you” though. The optional reps meant that their dog was increasingly happy to SOMETIMES CHOOSE to get touched to earn some food, but if he chose not to, he would still escalate his aggressive choices.
They asked me what I can offer that is different to their previous homework, and the answer is that in this instance, the issue isn't the touch itself. It is related to chronic stress, and it is also more about the control of the touch than the touch itself.
For this dog, who loves touch on his own terms, but will choose aggression when touched not on his own terms, doing reps only on the dog's terms is missing the core of the issue!
If your dog also loves touch (on their terms/when in a good mood), but changes when you initiate the touch (especially if you have any intention to do something), then it's not a touch issue, it is a control issue. If your dog is in this category, trainer advice is crucial, but there absolutely are so many factors that the mainstream dog training and behaviour world is still missing.
If this sounds like your dog, start by checking out the stranger danger and touch sensitivity roadmap on the Honest Hounds app, or for 1:1 customised advice, book a free discovery call - link in comments