07/06/2026
“Why can he walk nicely for you, but not for me?”
It’s one of the most common questions I hear when working with dogs who pull on the lead.
In this video, you’ll see a frustrated owner being pulled all over the pavement by his dog. You’ll also see me walking the very same dog, on the very same collar, using the very same lead, on the very same pavement.
The difference isn’t the equipment.
The difference is the emotional state and behaviour of the person holding the lead.
Before we can teach a dog to relax, we must first learn how to relax ourselves.
Dogs are masters at reading body language, tension, breathing patterns, movement, and emotional energy. They are constantly gathering information from us, whether we realise it or not. If we’re anxious, frustrated, rushed, or anticipating the next pull on the lead, our dogs often mirror that state of mind.
Many owners unknowingly begin a walk already tense. They’re expecting their dog to pull, lunge, react, or ignore them. The lead tightens, their shoulders tense, their breathing becomes shallow, and the dog immediately senses that something isn’t right.
The result?
An excited, anxious, distracted, or over-aroused dog that finds it difficult to switch off and focus.
When I begin working with a dog like this, I don’t start by teaching loose lead walking.
I start by teaching relaxation.
I help the handler understand how their own emotions, body language, timing, and energy influence their dog. Once the human becomes calmer, clearer, and more consistent, the dog often begins to relax too.
A relaxed dog can think.
A relaxed dog can learn.
A relaxed dog can make better choices.
Lead pulling is rarely just a lead pulling problem. It’s often a symptom of excitement, frustration, anxiety, poor communication, or a dog that has never learned how to settle and regulate its emotions.
Training isn’t simply about controlling behaviour.
It’s about creating a dog that feels calm enough to make good decisions.
When you watch this video, don’t just look at what the dog is doing.
Look at what the human is doing.
The lesson isn’t that I have some magic technique.
The lesson is that dogs respond differently when the person at the other end of the lead changes.
If you want a calmer dog, start by becoming a calmer handler.
Your dog is always listening, even when you haven’t said a word.
I hope this helps?
Allan