Real Horsemanship

10/02/2025

My ends aren’t meeting!!
Jeez, I’ve said those words a few times over the years…
Despite the fact I’m pretty good at budgeting, and almost an expert at juggling finances, (robbing Peter to pay Paul, know what I mean? I’d turned that into an art form!)
I was so good at convincing myself it was fine.
I could manage. I always found a way, right?
Thing is, the subject of retirement funds kept popping up, especially from my husband, who would talk about downsizing, a quieter life, managing with one car, living within our means. F* ! OOOOOhh no !
Trouble is, I’d kept my head totally and completely buried in the sand for decades when it came to any mention of pension or retirement.
My plan was SIMPLES!
Just keep going…
Which is fine, cos I do love my life. I love coaching, my horses, my travel adventures, singing, dancing, days out with family and friends.
I don’t want to give ANYTHING up!
There are though, some things I’d like to do less of........... ,...and a MILLION other (new) things I want to do more of ! 🤩
I don’t want to shrink my dreams—I want to expand them. I've got places to go, people to see.
So many things, so much life to live, right to the end.
Because let’s be honest… ‘It’s better to burn out than to fade away.’
(That line always stuck with me from Highlander 🤣!)
The idea of ‘work hard, retire, and then make do with what’s left’ doesn’t sit right with me. And, yes, maybe I should have done more about it, sooner...
I didn't.
But, I just can’t see myself “downsized,” sat in a chair, knitting my life away.
That is, not unless it’s in my rocking chair, on the wraparound veranda of my homestead, overlooking a view that takes my breath away!
Which is EXACTLY why, this time last year, I lifted my head out of the sand.
I made a decision to do something about making those Ffffff-ing “Ends” overlap!
A decision that led me to a masterclass about earning income online.
A decision to INVEST in myself and launch my business in high-ticket affiliate marketing.
Because I’d seen firsthand what’s possible.
I’d watched people I know well, completely change their financial reality through it. Not just strangers online, but real people, living the kind of life I want to create for myself.
So why not me?
And, if you’ve read all the way down to here, I thank you.
And I’ll ask you, Does This Resonate?
I refuse to make myself smaller just to fit inside a financial box that someone else designed.
There’s a whole world out there waiting for us—and I, for one, am not done saying yes to it.
What About You?
If you’re ready to make a change drop me a 🔥in the comments, or send me a DM and I'll get YOU access to that Masterclass.

27/01/2025

🌟 Exciting Announcement! 🌟
Tomorrow evening, I’ll be hosting a live interview with someone very special: Chloe Robinson .
Chloe is a former horsemanship client of mine, a first-time mum, and—here’s the surprising bit—we launched our online businesses at practically the same time without even knowing it!
Chloe faced the common challenge of deciding whether to return to work after having her gorgeous little boy. She knew she didn’t want to miss those precious moments, so she made the choice to explore a new way of working that gives her the freedom to be fully present while building a business on her terms.
We’ll be chatting about her journey, what drew her to this business, and how she’s finding the balance between work and family life.
🗓️ Sunday, 28 January
⏰ 7:15 PM GMT
This is a chance to hear an honest and relatable conversation about choosing a different path and creating a life that works for you.
💬 Got questions? Pop them in the comments, and we’ll do our best to cover them during the live.
Looking forward to seeing you there!

26/01/2025

20/01/2025

Very informative, worth a read.

Equines and losing their herd mates.
Most equines don’t process death in the same way we do, but its important to understand how they look at it.
Firstly its they way they understand it, they can watch it but it does not mean much, it’s the smell that tells them. So horses should be allowed to smell their departed friend, this is two part, firstly its for them to work out they have died, second part is they will be smelling for adrenalin and endorphins. Generally animals don’t fear death but they fear pain and the process of dying, which if most people are honest is the same for us, most people don’t fear death it’s the getting there, when its your time most people just hope its instant or they go in their sleep, animals are often the same.
You can put a horse down with another one watching and they will often finish their bucket of food before they go to investigate why their mate is laying down. Then they smell a lot around the dead one and if there is no adrenalin or endorphins then they died quickly and were not attacked, so nothing to worry about, even though they saw it the nose overrides all other senses, (hence why horses dislike the wind, stops them smelling in one direction)
So how do we help the horses, ponies etc accept the death of a herd member.
Time is the most important thing, giving them long enough to investigate.
The best thing is to put down the horse in an area that’s safe to let their heard mates into afterwards loose.
This is because some horses run “tests” to check they are dead, this will involve walking in arcs up to them, running away in short bursts (trying to get a flight response) grazing next to dead ones head, pawing with hooves, sometimes biting. If there is some blood they will often put on their nose or taste it, again checking for adrenalin or endorphins to ensure that they are safe and it was not a lion hiding in hedge that killed it. They will then walk away grazing and return about 3 times, after this they accept it and just walk away.
The time it takes varies on the position in herd of the one that’s dies, (one that has been pushed out of herd due to being ill the others will only take 20min to accept as they were expecting it, on other hand if it’s the leader of herd that unexpectedly died, accident etc, it takes far longer as no one is giving instructions so the upset is 2 fold this might take a hour and a half to accept whilst sniffing)
Also the breed is big factor, Shetland ponies for example only take a few minutes (they appear hard and uncaring often due to this) where a thoroughbred or Arab takes on average 45min to accept.
Leading a horse up to dead one tends to slow process down or sometimes they don’t understand at all as they will try to feed of body language of the one who’s leading them and we are not good at horse body language. If there is no choice due to are its still better then not showing them at all but its best done with long lead rope and keeping it as loose as possible to allow the horse to jump around as remember this is partly how they work it out.
The more horses in the herd the quicker they will figure out that’s one died but its nothing to worry about as they will look to each other.
Some special cases, donkeys are terrible at being so attached they one died they will pine to death, so they need another animal for company when their mate goes and we find they should have a least 12 hours with their deceased friend, this is why when we put down donkeys we recommend they we put it down one day and we will come back next day to collect, even trough this means 2 trips.
Mares when they lose their foals (or if foal pts ) again if we have put foal down and you are not going to foster mother then its best to do it and leave foal in stable for example where mother has free access, it can take her up to 48hr to realize her foal is dead and not just sleeping at which time she will bury it and its then safe to remove it without causing any upset.
All of this is why we allow at least a hour and a half for every horse we are putting down but are prepared to wait even longer if needed, 2 part it ensure the euthanasia is never rushed so we can ensure its instant and best as it can be but also the grieving process is vital to any other horse that are part of hear if they were attached. And the more time they have with their field mate who passed on the better.
If you have very closely bonded herd I’m always happy to discuss what’s the best way not only for the one who’s going but also for what’s best for their companions.
This photo shows a group of horses checking out their sadly deceased field mate, no stress just working it out and accepting it.

*edit*
I will add that the times I have said are different horse to horse and it's the time it takes them to normally understand the their friend has died and not just injured or sleeping.
Once they accept this they will then start to greve, like people some horses will take a few hour, some a few days and some a couple of weeks to get over a major change to their herd. But it's much better when they know what's happening to the other option my friend is missing and they will keep looking sometimes for months..

20/01/2025

When Playing Safe Feels Like the Right Thing to Do… But Is It?

Have you ever been in a situation where everything feels a bit shaky—like the ground beneath you isn’t as firm as it used to be? It’s natural to want to hunker down, hold onto what you have, and ride out the storm. Sometimes, playing safe feels like the only sensible option.

But what if it’s not?

Years ago, in my natural horsemanship journey, Pat Parelli said “Look at what everybody else is doing… and do the opposite.” It was the first time I’d heard it, but it stuck with me, even though initially it sounded counterintuitive.
Why wouldn’t I follow what others were doing if it seemed to work? But over time, I realised the wisdom in that advice. Sometimes, the herd instinct keeps us stuck—doing what feels familiar, even if it’s not what truly serves us.

In those moments, stepping away from what’s comfortable, from what everyone else is doing, can open doors we didn’t even know existed.

It’s easy to see opportunities as risks when life feels uncertain.

But what if the bold move—the one that feels scary—is actually the answer? What if leaning into discomfort is what leads to lasting stability?

Of course, I’ve followed the herd many times, but I have taken the less obvious path on occasions too. Trusted my instincts, and pushed that door open to see what’s in the other side! And you know what.. I’ve discovered something bigger and better waiting on the other side. Often not something easy, but something that I’ve been grateful to find.

So, if you’re standing at a crossroads, unsure whether to play it safe or take the leap, maybe this is your moment to step back, look at what everyone else is doing… and do the opposite.

After all, what if that opposite move isn’t a risk but the very solution you’ve been searching for? 😊

10/12/2024

Meet Carmen Smith, looking radiant, surrounded by her team of 6A+ leaders, who came together over the weekend in Sydney for business awards and celebrations.
6A is a major milestone within the ranking system of the online business, so there is much to celebrate, not least the incentive bonuses that accompany the rank, and set you up to continue rising; 6A2, 6A2-2 and onward.. ⬆️
I’m proud to call Carmen a friend and a mentor, a fellow professional horsewoman, who jumped into the online business world with no prior experience. She has blazed a trail for others to follow and I’m grateful to finally have got out of my own way and joined her team. I’ve a way to go, but I’m loving every minute of the journey, and I’m also proud to be part of a revolution that changing lives for 1000’s of people.
Which is why I love what Carmen wrote in her FB post:
“My first awards, it was just me!
Ya gotta put your own oxygen mask on first!!!
Then it was me & Fran ❤️
Then last year it was me, Fran, Lisa, Kliff, Danielle & Jimmy, Kiley & Glenys ❤️
Then this year it was me, Fran, Lisa, Kliff, Danielle, Jimmy, Kiley, Leanne & Jenelle and Josh….. ❤️

My heart." ❤️❤️

06/12/2024

03/12/2024

Oh My Goodness ! " Interviewing " people is such a blast !
Move over Oprah...! 🤣 🥰.

It's not really interviewing, it's a beautiful conversation with a like-minded, heart-centred ❤️soul, sharing her story of how working online, in the digital arena of high ticket affiliate marketing, has changed her life.

Enjoy and then drop me an emoji in the comments or send me a message as soon as you have realised you need to to investigate this fully yourself, and you absolutely must be in on the launch of:

THRIVE 2025 - The Side Hustle Revolution

I will send you the link to register . 😊

18/11/2024

What an amazing share! Meet Elaine, a fellow horse lover, who finally broke free after 40 years behind a desk in the 9-to-5 grind and discovered a whole new lease of life. Building her business around work, family and horses, it only took only 3 years for her to be able to quit her job.
One of my favourite interviews, enjoy and then reach out with a message, or a comment.

Why wait decades when freedom is possible now?

13/11/2024

Tonight ! 7pm UK 8pm CET