MeMods - Men Models

07/11/2024

At the end of your life, your name will either be a key or a padlock - Apostle Joshua Selma

06/11/2024

For anyone that was, someone is and for anyone that is, someone will be. Except God, that’s why He was, is and will be - Ancient of days 😊

04/11/2024

Don’t follow where the path leads you. Go where there’s no path and leave a trail. Be a TRAILBLAZER!!!

29/09/2024

THE ACT, NOT THE ACTOR

For the Bible has taught us not to condemn the sinner for we see the greatest template by Christ, that even while we were yet sinners, died for our sins because He first loved us. Now don’t get it twisted, it doesn’t mean God condones sin, no. He hates sin not the sinner. That’s the difference, but do not be deceived, that’s a very difficult skill to muster and only comes through grace.
Today, we pray for grace to condemn the act and not the actor. It’s a difficult thing to do because I’ve seen people who hate certain people with a passion because they saw them act a wicked part in a movie. It’s funny but that’s a good example. Condemning the act and not the actor is the only way we can keep relationships and our loved ones and most importantly, continue to walk in love.
Today, I pray for this grace over myself and over anyone battling with pain and unforgiveness. The solution is love.

« Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love » - 1 John 4:8. By deduction therefore, understanding love is understanding God and we know it is almost impossible to understand God. Thus we understand why it is very difficult to walk in love.
Loving doesn’t mean overlooking the other person’s faults but sacrificing to get them out of the mess so you can love them. So God got into the gutter to save us, His only begotten son had to die. Sometimes, you have to take a hit even for the person who has wronged you so you can repair that relationship if not you will be very lonely. God couldn’t leave without His creation so He sacrificed for love. For God so LOVED the world that he GAVE ……. When you love, you give, when you love, you sacrifice. So my question is « what are you giving,
What are you sacrificing??? »

If you don’t walk in love, you will be lonely because everyone will hurt you. Even Lucifer who was created superior to all other angels rebelled against God and carrried a third of the angels in heaven with him. The angels God sent on assignment came and lusted after the ladies on earth. No situation is better than the one you are in now, the difference is how you handle it and the difference is Love.

This is a very deep topic I might have to do a paper on it and do further research. Let this brief suffice for today however. Your thoughts, questions, inputs, etc. are welcome even as we contour to learn and encourage one another in the Lord.

These are my reflections for today even as we prepare for CHARISMA in Bolgatanga with Papa E and continue to walk in love.

15/09/2024

Remember your enemy might not necessarily be God’s enemy so tread cautiously
Your enemy could be a man after God’s very own heart
No vex God 😊

17/08/2024

When the last one goes, we become the old folks at family functions 😔

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21/10/2023

Hon. Samuel Okudzeto Ablakwa - MP for North Tongu
I have followed him for a while now
The man exudes authority and leadership. A very charismatic and personable character.

That’s however not what I want to talk about, I want to speak about his humanity, humility, empathy, love, kindness. He appears also to be a straight arrow (by that I don’t mean he’s perfect, everyone has their flaws and so do great leaders, I choose to celebrate a great leader).
I love and admire how he treats his constituents. I like his principles and what he stands for.
I prayed to God to help me genguiny think about people when I have power over them because, but then I realise I already have some level of power with people under me, in my family, at my place of work, in my community, in my church, but most importantly over my self: the most difficult person to lead is yourself and so today I choose to lead myself properly so I can lead others and they will follow. Everyone reading this post is a leader in their own little way. You’ve got some clout that you might not even know about, someone out there is looking up to you. Just like Hon. Ablakwa inspires me from a distance, so do you inspire others you don’t even know about.
You are not perfect, but don’t stop, don’t give in and don’t give up, just keep doing what you are doing. Maybe in your community, workplace, church, mosque, family, you are the closest role model a child or young man will ever have even if you don’t know it. Live your life well and be an inspiration. I want to be able to like Paul in the Bible say at the end of my life that I have fought the good fight, I have run the race and I have finished well.

I want to be the man who appears in times of crisis and people feel a sense of calm. Years ago, my father had that effect on me and the family. I’m trying to be that man to my family, my colleagues at work, my community, my friends and so should you.

I pray to be selfless, I want to lead a people and motivation and reward will be that the people leave a much better and dignified life and I know it is possible. I want anyone who works with me or who I’m leading be willing to follow me over and off a cliff because I genuinely care and will mentor and never give up on them. I want them to listen to and follow me and not the title or position (read that again). I want to be a level 5 leader (Good to great - Jim Collins)
I have seen how others have wielded power only to intimidate people and I’ve head the saying that a great person is determined by how he treats the people around him/her. I want to be a good leader and I repeat, everyone is a leader.

I have been inspired by so many people but today I’ve chosen to speak about Hon. Ablakwa.
He is a great leader, the kind I will follow over and off a cliff

20/06/2022

FATHERS DAY ARTICLE
Yesterday was Father’s Day and my plan was to launch my first ever official blog (which seeks to celebrate and learn from accomplished men and from one another) on a day like that. Guess, what, I wasn’t even in church and I am ok with that because I understand that the best laid plans sometimes go awry. Suffice it to say however that I had spent my day doing something quite useful. I had gone out with the boys (my friends) to Bimbagu for the engagement ceremony of the sister of one of my friends. Bimbagu is a community in the Bunkpurugu district located in the North East Region of Ghana and it took us close to four hours to drive from the capital; Bolgatanga of the Upper East Region. It was a colourful ceremony but what I was thinking about the whole time during our drive back was that my friend had borne over 80% of the cost of his sister’s engagement which included arranging for canopies (cheese-tents – quite fancy for a remote community right?) to be sent from Bolga because he wanted the very best for his sister. He wanted to make an emphatic statement to the young man coming to marry his sister that the young lady was valued and cherished and deserved the very best. Men like these are worth celebrating but just like me, he is a very shy person and doesn’t want to be mentioned and so I plan to respect his wish.
Father’s Day is a day to honour our fathers. Fathers are one of the few members of the family who work very hard to keep the family afloat but seldom get the recognition and appreciation they deserve because it is assumed they are only performing their duties as fathers. There is a general perception that every woman is a responsible woman and seeks her children’s welfare and will do anything for their children (perhaps why they are more celebrated) while every man or a majority (if we decide to be generous) of men are irresponsible. This topic is moot and I will rather seek to celebrate men today without being drawn into this battle which picks its roots from a time even before I was born 😊.
As children (especially from the Northern parts of Ghana), we always understood that a man must be strong and not show emotions as that (emotions) is the prerogative of women (a “duty” they relish and are sometimes overly dramatic about). Growing up therefore, We hardly saw our fathers smile or show weakness but in adulthood, we have come to understand they carry so much on their backs and endure a lot of pain.
It is perhaps because of the tradition that emotions are for women that we hardly hear our fathers (especially from the part of Ghana (Northern) where I come from) tell us “I love you” or have them hug us. At best, the closest show of love you would get from your father apart from an attempt at providing all your needs will be “Take care and be a good boy, call me if you have any challenge”. The story is however told, albeit so many times, of a father who refused to sell his house to fund his heart surgery abroad so that he could leave his family with a roof over their heads. He died a few weeks later at 57 years.
Well today, I want all men to know that it is ok to be afraid sometimes, it is ok to need comfort from our wives sometimes, it is ok to hold your children close and tell them I love you and it is Ok to tell your wife I love you and hug them every day as well for underneath all these heroics and bravery, is flesh and blood and weakness; and accepting that as men will help us get all the love and support we can get from our families even as we do all it takes to also support them, ultimately prolonging our lifespans. Talking about flesh and blood and weakness reminds me of why as men, we need to be filled with the Holy Spirit for (It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: - Jn 6:63), but let me not get ahead of myself as I will be writing on the Spirit-filled man in a future post.
Belated Happy Fathers’ Day to all fathers!!!

I will soon be hosting a Men Talk show on the Love Revolution TV (LRTV). This is a talk show that will seek to discuss all men issues from love, purity and holiness, prayer, child-upbringing, s*x (in marriage), men grooming and etiquette including dressing. It will be a 30-minute talk show and the discussions can continue here after the show has ended. If you want to come on the show or if you want to see any particular person(s) on the show, here will be a good place to post it. You can also send me an email directly .[email protected] if you would rather not get interactive on here.