06/11/2025
Dr Shelley Appleton Calm Willing Confident Horses
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Word: Balance
(aka If the word “connection” made your head spin, wait till you hear this one!)
One of the holy trinity of horsemanship: timing, feel, and balance.
Sounds simple, right? Except balance, like connection, is a word used so often - and in so many ways - it can make your head spin.
The legendary horseman Tom Dorrance once used a broom to explain it. You know the drill: balance the broom upright on your hand. To keep it there, your hand has to keep shifting beneath the centre of mass. Stop adjusting, and the broom falls. The physics is boringly simple; the lesson isn’t. Because that constant, tiny readjustment - that’s balance in action. It’s all the micro-decisions and movements we make every second when working with a living, breathing, thinking animal that has a brain of its own.
We’re doing the same thing every time we interact with a horse - whether caring, handling, or riding. We’re respecting not only the centre of mass in the body, but also the centre of emotion and the centre of thought. Because balance in horses isn’t just physical. It’s a full-body, full-brain, full-heart experience.
Physical balance is the gymnastic one - distributing weight, force, and load evenly through the horse’s body and joints. It’s what keeps them from falling, tripping, or wearing out joints prematurely. And it takes a lot of training, because horses aren’t born symmetrical - and they certainly didn’t evolve to carry a human on their back, which makes the job about a thousand percent harder.
Mental balance means the horse isn’t switched off or switched on like a motion-sensor floodlight. Not too dull, not too reactive - just calm, thinking, responsive, and able to perform without panic.
Emotional balance is the nervous system version of the broom - recovering quickly when startled, not melting down when asked, and feeling safe enough to try. That comes from how we nurture them, what we expose them to, and what we help them understand. They need to trust that we are not a threat - that when they’re with us, they’re safe.
And then there’s the rider’s balance - the human component of the equation. A centred, stable load who moves with the horse, not like a sack of potatoes pretending to have a core.
But wait, there’s more. Nutrition must be balanced. Hooves must be balanced. Saddles must be balanced. Training schedules, work–rest ratios, feed ratios, even our emotional investment - all need balancing. Because every imbalance, however small, ripples through the whole system.
And this is where things get messy. Because there are so many dimensions of the horse that need balancing, people often get stuck defending their favourite one. The bodyworker will say physical balance is everything. The mindset coach will swear it’s emotional balance. The nutritionist, the farrier, the saddle fitter - each believes their balance matters most. But the truth is, all of them matter.
Anyone who truly understands physical balance also knows it can’t exist without mental and emotional balance - because tension, confusion, or fear will throw the body out of sync. Nutritional imbalance will quietly undo everything else. And if you get all that right but ride in an unbalanced saddle, you can kiss the rest goodbye. Every balance connects to the next. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
The secret of balance - in horses, life, or broomsticks - isn’t perfection. It’s noticing imbalance quickly and adjusting before the whole thing crashes down.
Balance is not fixed - it’s fluid. It changes, it’s influenced, it’s lived in motion. What impacts balance impacts the horse’s life, because nothing unsettles a horse more than feeling unbalanced. A horse’s primary defence is movement - take away their ability to move with confidence, and they feel vulnerable.
So yes, balance runs deep. When you hear the word and feel your eyes glaze over, remember this: it exists on many levels - physical, mental, emotional - but it all boils down to one thing:
Balance from our side of the fence - is your the ability to adjust with awareness - supporting the horse physically, mentally, and emotionally, and protecting them so they can manage the stresses of life and thrive.
PS. If you have another type of "balance" I might have missed, please add it below in the comments 😆‼
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