
04/23/2025
I’ve sat with this for a few days. And my heart is still heavy.
Dr. Shawn Frehner, a Nevada veterinarian, was found dead this past week. Yes—the same vet involved in the recent viral video that caused a firestorm online. The footage was hard to watch. He even issued a public apology. But what happened next was something no human being deserves.
What I personally saw unfold on social media was absolutely vile. “Keyboard Warriors” hiding behind screens, hurling comments like “he should k^ll himself,” “what a piece of trash,” and worse. Full-grown adults—many of whom claim to love animals—acting like playground bullies with weapons far more dangerous than sticks and stones.
Let’s be clear: there’s a difference between accountability and cruelty. Between demanding change and demanding blood.
We, as a society, crossed a line with this one. And now a life is gone. A real human being, not just a name on a screen. Someone’s son, someone’s friend, someone who dedicated his life to caring for animals—just like many of us.
Most people don’t realize this, but veterinary professionals already have one of the highest su***de rates of any profession. Female vets are 3.5 times more likely to die by su***de than the general population. For men, it’s 2.1 times higher.
The emotional weight of the job—euthanasia, compassion fatigue, financial strain, long hours, constant demands—it all piles up. Then add a viral video and an avalanche of online hate? It becomes unbearable.
I'm not here to excuse actions that were wrong. I’m here to say: cruelty doesn't heal cruelty. We need to be better. If we really care about animals, we must also care about people. Compassion can't be selective.
To those keyboard warriors who think their words don’t carry weight—you’re wrong. They do. And this time, those words may have pushed someone over the edge.
Rest in peace, Dr. Frehner. I hope your spirit finds the grace and gentleness this world couldn’t offer you in the end.
We must do better. Because children are watching. They’re learning from the way we treat each other, especially in moments of outrage. This kind of behavior trickles down—bullying isn’t just an adult problem; it’s fueling a heartbreaking rise in su***de among kids as young as 10.
Empathy, compassion, and accountability all begin at home. Our kids are either learning love or they’re learning hate. And we are the teachers.
With a heavy- heavy heart,
Tonja Denise
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