08/21/2025
Pet peeve. People who don't value other people's time.
I once woke up to seeing a post in another group, belittling a Farmer for not selling to her after she rescheduled several times. I also wake up most days of recent, to many messages on questions regarding food prices rising & how to reach our "Feed Freedom" goals . We can no longer keep up with responding to the amount of messages we get.
Before I step on my soap box, let me just say, this goes both ways. Farmers can be just as guilty. Farmers fail, not because they can't farm, but because they don't act or treat themselves as a professional business.
They don't recognize that success depends on time management & HALF of that time (that's right, I said it) should be spent on business communication & marketing yourself. It's not just cuddling cows, collecting eggs & hoping people show up to buy your zucchini.
You should have SET hours, days, answer messages & not jerk customers around. A business plan or model that stays consistent. Also, though we live in a digital world that is never " OFF", you have a right to put the phone down, close the gate & be present with your family. If you commit to a weekly market, show up & finish the season but also, don't complain publicly about your low sales, your church or your politics. On the flip side don't take disrespect of time, or even price hagglers. Nobody barters with Wally world for their food.
I've got thick skin, I don't take things personally & I truly believe our vibe attracts our tribe. I love sharing with y'all but I deserve to honor & value my time, as much as you do yours.
So this post I read, it bothered me, for the disrespect the farmer received. The audacity to value ones own time.
If I have someone picking something up from my farm, I usually send an appointment time with a 30 minute window. That's it. If that person shows up late, I make a note in my phone to not sell to them again. Period. Especially if there is no apology. We all have lives, I don't need to hear the excuse that your kid slept in or your goats got out, again. "I'll be there in a bit" isn't going to fly.
On the flip side, I have people I sell to all the time. They show up, I push them to the top of lists, give discounts, spend the extra chat time because they show up, they support me over & over. These are my tribe & they make business easy & fun.
My time is as valuable as yours is. I've waited, changed my schedule to accommodate, had people cancel after driving to a meeting point. I don't do it anymore. We all have catastrophes & lazy days. We also all have busy schedules & responsibility. We don't show up late for work or a Dr appointment. Why is your time more important than a farmer, or that farmers family?
So, back to the messages. I still try to respond when I can. One recent weekend, I took the time to respond to the gazillionth message on freak out mode over feed, cost of raising livestock, asking me about fodder & cover crops. My reply was short because I was busy, but I did respond that I have an an E-Book available with much more information on what we do. I sent the link. Later, I get a reply:
"so you're just one of those out to make a buck".
Actually, yes. Although I'm not getting rich off $10 Ebooks, my time is valuable and I have worth. There is plenty of free advice on the interwebs. Some great, some awful. If you're reaching out to me with a question that would take me hours to explain in detail, & you really need answers, I don't think paying a measly $10 is much to ask for something that took me weeks to perfect & write. You do have a choice to buy or not buy. It was a suggestion, not a threat. You may choose to support someone who took the time, not only to respond to you privately but also to provide all the content in one place so you don't have to search hours all over & w**d through the good & bad advice on the web, but nobody is holding a gun to your head. It takes tons of time to prep & host classes or to provide good content in print form & I work hard to make it great, because YOUR TIME IS VALUABLE TOO. I want people walking away, happy they spent those 3 hours with me or reading my book & being pumped to go start systems with what they've learned.
I actually recently saw another farm post a shaming AI
generated picture regarding this topic. It insinuated we should be sharing for free, it shamed ebooks & charging for classes.
I wanted to ask this person, who was hiding behind odd AI chicken cartoons, who in this world works for free? Don't most people receive paychecks for a job? Would you show up every day to work without an income?
Your vibe attracts your tribe. Treat yourself with respect, so others respect you. I call most of my followers my friends at this point & I am so very lucky to have y'all sticking with my crazy.
Farms & Homesteads are still a business, with hard working people behind them, just trying to feed their own family. We get a bad rap from the ones who choose not to represent us professionally, but if anyone deserves the respect for their hard work, it should be the ones who grow your food or the ones showing you how to grow it yourself.
Real people deserve to be valued timewise. Know your Worth. ☮️❤️🐥