05/13/2023
Advice from Toni, the sweet friend we are doing the waffle for, to her graduates:
More years ago than I care to admit, I was preparing for graduation just like so many are. That means that I’m now one of the ones that gets to say things like “time flies” and “back when I was in school” and you get to roll your eyes. However, there are a few truths that I've learned over those years that I didn't believe then:
1. Listen to your grandparents. Truly hear what they have to say.
2. If you’re lucky (and if you pay attention), at about 25 years old, you’ll realize you should have been doing #1 all your life.
3. While high school might have been great, the coming years are better. You won’t know it till you’re living them, but the best years are yet to come.
4. No matter how much you promise each other you’ll keep in touch, it just won’t happen. Not because you don’t want to or don’t try to, life just has a way of taking people in different directions sometimes. However, there is a silver lining: I don't see my best friends from high school often, but believe me when I tell you that when we see one another, we pick up right where we left off. True friends are blessings. Count yours and count them again. Make sure they know how much they mean to you.
5. For the love of your future, stop posting nonsense on the internet! If you post it, it’s there. It doesn't go away, no matter how many times you think you might have deleted it. Just because your future boss may be thirty years older than you, don’t think they don’t know that Instagram, Twitter, tik tok and snapchat exist – yes, they know how to check more than just Facebook, and yes, it could cost you a great job… or more.
6. Take pictures. Take lots of them. (Remember, though, that you don’t have to post them all. See #5).
7. Be kind. Smile. If you wake up in the morning determined that it’s going to be a good day, that tends to rub off on people.
8. Yes, you do care what other people think of you. No one really believes you when you say you don't. BUT, it’s up to you why you care. Care for the right reasons. Care because you truly want to make a difference. Care because the legacy you leave will be made up of the impression you've made on others. Make it an unforgettable, inspiring legacy.
9. Learn to be independent. Quick. Learn how to balance your checkbook. Learn how to cook. Learn how to do your own laundry. Learn what credit is and get some. Yes, your parents love you. You want their respect? Show them your appreciation by being a productive adult. Don’t be that 20-something-year-old that people still think of as a teenager.
10. And “last, but certainly not least,” there IS a Manual on how to grow up. You probably have two or three in your house somewhere. Pick one up and study It when your day is hard. Pick one up and study It when your day is awesome. You want book knowledge that is “applicable to the real world?” Learn It. (There are some fantastic speeches and stories in red print 😉.)
I guarantee that in the coming weeks, some great quotes will be read in some great speeches. “Go confidently in the direction of your dreams...” “You have brains in your head, you have feet in your shoes...” “What lies behind us and what lies before us…” “I took the road less traveled by…”
While these are all great quotes, I have the perfect one for you. It comes from the Manual, and it goes like this:
Do everything in love. -1 Corinthians 16:14. That, my friends, truly is the road less traveled. I assure you, though, that it will make all the difference.
Congratulations, graduates, on this wonderful, important, memorable occasion.