02/12/2023
Tonight, I saddled up to go for a ride on my mare and as I went to bridle her, she told me, “no”. Actually, she told me, “hell no”. I wanted to share the process I take when either introducing a skill, or, like tonight, reintroducing a skill and I wanted to discuss the quality of empathy necessary to properly handle and train these animals. I could’ve man handled this animal and forced the bridle on her, but her and I both would’ve been left seething with frustration. also, am I a dictator and a tyrant leader, or am I am partner? something to think about. When I train, I match the horses energy, always. I match their resistance and I match their give with release. What does this mean? As much as she is fighting, I match her. I stay with her. I continue to ask and I do not release until she gives me a try. What does this look like? Now, I do not match her energy hoping to force/sneak the bit in her mouth, in fact, when she does relax and accept, I will be sure to match her give with release and that means, when I have the opportunity to sneak the bit in her mouth through force, I don’t do it. If I expect honor and partnership from her, I need to build trust and nurture acceptance not subservience.
The actual process from resistance to fluidity and acceptance? It looks like this.
1) I teach a cue for her to put her head down and in the head stall. I do this with no intention of trying to bit her up.
2) I ask her to tolerate the bit resting on her lips, without opening her mouth
3) I ask her to open her mouth but I do not attempt to bit her up
4) I ask her to take the bit but I remove it immediately without putting the head stall over her ears
5) I expect (now that she is fully prepared to accept) her to take the bit quietly and willingly and put her head down for the head stall.
if at anytime, I am met with resistance, I match both the resistance and the try and I do not move onto the next step until I have both a willingness and an acceptance.
*** I give ample breaks and rest, throughout, to give the horse time to think and process, an important component in the session***