06/10/2023
This hits home, both in my own riding and in my students...
How hard do you have to work to break a habit?
Over the years in my career, I’ve had many bad riding habits I’ve had to work to break.
Some of them were ingrained purposely by riding instructors I trusted and moved away from: things like pulling, constant fiddling with the reins, constant use of the leg.
Others were picked up through my body’s own attempt to keep me balanced where I wasn’t doing the job properly- things like clenching or crookedness.
To change a habit, first we need to be aware of it. This can be hard enough, because we get used to ourselves and our crookedness or bad habits, and it becomes our baseline for normal. So first it has to come to your awareness, and you have to believe it to be out of balance.
Next, you have to decide you TRULY want to change it. Not just say, “oh I know I grind my leg, it’s my bad habit!” Because that is essentially permission to yourself to keep doing it. You have to want to ride better more than you want to be comfortable. You have to understand that getting help not doing this might make you mad, might make you very tired, maybe fearful, it might take away all your coping mechanisms for riding and leave you with a feeling of loss of control. You have to accept this to change.
Then you have to catch yourself EVERY time you do the habit and change it. You might need lots of instruction, videos of yourself, some type of physical tool on your body to bring awareness to it (I often use polo wraps, Franklin balls, weights on wrists for puppy dog wrists, etc). Your brain and body need to connect again and again and again to change the subconscious patterning. You can’t quit at a couple repetitions and assume your body will keep listening to your brain- it has to be well ingrained until it’s your new habit.
Changing bad riding habits isn’t for sissies. It comes down to not just wanting to be better rider, but understanding that every imbalance or poor habit imbalances, hurts, annoys, or limits your horse.
It’s going to be hard work, it’s going to be humbling, frustrating, maybe a little scary.
But do you love yourself and your horse enough to not accept your bad habits and to move on from them?
The good news is once you do it with a few bad habits, change becomes easier and easier. It is less embarrassing and more exciting. The possibilities of who you can be, how much you can benefit a horse, really open up to you.
I know I still have my work to do!
Photo by Melinda Yelvington