09/26/2024
Last week, one of my students excitedly showed me her new cowboy boots. She was so proud of them, but then shared how kids at school had bullied her for wearing them with leggings. They called her “fake,” saying she wasn’t “cowboy enough” and wasn’t a “real cowgirl.”
I told her she was more of a cowgirl than any of them because real cowgirls support each other, show kindness, and act with compassion.
Later that week, I had a lesson with a younger student. Her little legs barely reached past the saddle pad, and she had to work hard to give the horse the right cues. She never complained or asked to stop; she just kept trying. I gave her a high five and said, “Well done, cowgirl!” She responded, a bit sadly, “I’m not a real cowgirl; I’m just using your horse for lessons.”
I explained that it’s not the horse, the hat, or the boots that make someone a cowgirl—it’s the dedication, grit, and determination. By that measure, she absolutely deserved the title.
Too often, people call themselves cowgirls (or cowboys) just because they have the look—the ranch, the boots, or the horse. But none of that truly defines them. A real cowgirl is someone who lifts others up, shows resilience, and stays committed, even when things get tough.
So, if you're willing to tear someone down, don’t call yourself a cowgirl. Nobody’s horse is that high.
Written by: Jade Toronchuk
📸: Olah Farms
