10/09/2023
You’ve bought your dream horse and suddenly, the wheels have come off.
What’s gone wrong? He’s spooky, he won’t go soft and round, he’s hard to catch and now, he’s pulling back when tied! Don’t panic. There’s a chance you’ve bought the wrong horse... but there’s a bigger chance Mr. Right is homesick.
Stay in touch with his last owner or take some lessons with the former trainer, if you can. Stick with his old feed schedule and the same amount of turn out time. Double check that you’re using the same type of bit and that your saddle fits. Just do your utmost, for the next while, to replicate his old riding and turnout.
Yes, get riding. This flies in the face of a lot of advice but you want to keep him moving and keep going over the basics. You want to do this, for as a sale horse, it is likely that he was in a program with daily riding, before he sold. When we bring home this horse and just turn him out, he falls off the turnip cart of life.
I mention this because I have sold so many horses and ponies who were going beautifully at the time of selling and because the new owners were nervous, rather than ask for help, they did not ride the horse. Months later, they begin and now, they've the extra challenge of learning on an unridden, fresh horse.
Now, you mightn't always have to do it this way! But when you brought home your dream horse, you suddenly rocked his world. He has found himself among strange customs, in a strange land. His friends are gone and you’re in his space... a complete stranger who wants to bond. He’s the new kid in town and the new herd wants nothing to do with him.
It helps to meet him half way, by doing things 'his way', for a while. This isn't a contest. Nobody's keeping score. Yet how many of us feel that we need to 'reschool' a horse the minute we get him into our hands? We totally dismiss the idea that we liked this horse well enough last week, to buy him!
If this horse was a child, we'd know instinctively that he was homesick, that he was upset and that he wants to go home.
While he's working on acceptance, please don’t bribe him or try to remake him. Be safe, be fair, be constant. Give him lots of opportunity to work off his troubles. In time—six days? six weeks? six months? If he was a good horse when you bought him, if you do what you need to do to keep him in basic work with empathy and understanding, he will come around.
Remember, a horse’s level of homesickness has little to do with the level to which he is trained!
This is the horse who was (and still is) a good horse, though he may well feel different from the horse you met and bought. This is not the horse who was somehow 'misrepresented' and sold to you as a whole other bag of goods.
While many horses can change homes and not blink an eye or look back, there are a similar percentage of good, well-educated horses who have trouble with fundamental change in their lives (either in handling, herd life or location), or are challenged with regulating their emotions and stress levels.
They need patience and understanding. We sometimes forget that, in the excitement of writing that cheque...