08/08/2023
Saying a narcissist can be self-aware and change their ways is like thinking a rattlesnake's going to turn into a harmless garden hose. It just isn't going to happen.
Narcissists are wired differently. They believe they're above everyone else, like some superior beings, incapable of any wrongdoing. Sure, they may put on a show, pretending to have self-awareness, but it's all smoke and mirrors.
I've seen it time and time again. People get this false hope that if they just talk to the narcissist enough or show them the error of their ways, they'll magically transform into caring, empathetic individuals. But let me break it to you: that's a fantasy. Narcissists lack genuine empathy, and their focus is primarily on their own needs and desires.
I'm not saying it's impossible for someone to change, but with a narcissist, it's like trying to squeeze blood from a stone. They don't see themselves as flawed; they see everyone else as flawed. And if you try to confront them or hold them accountable, they'll twist the narrative and manipulate you into thinking you're the one with the problem.
In my experience, the best way to deal with a narcissist is to keep your distance. Don't let them drag you into their web of manipulation. Protect yourself and focus on your own well-being. You can't change a rattlesnake's nature, and you can't change a true narcissist. So, stay smart and stay safe out there.
Your friend on the journey,
Kim 🕊️