05/10/2024
I hope that all equestrians will find themselves so lucky one day to discover the truly difficult horse.
The horse who demands such fair and respectful treatment that their refusal to put up with unfairness initially takes you aback, leaving you unsure of how to respond to them in training. Leaving you questioning everything you knew.
The horse who forces you to reflect on your training toolbox and to consider why resorting to physical punishment as a go to for unwanted behaviour may not be the best method of problem solving.
The horse who, ultimately, results in such a systemic change in you as a horse person that every horse you touch afterwards is better for it.
Sometimes, we just need a truly difficult horse to force us to reflect on our areas of weakness and reawaken why we got into horses in the first place.
This type of horse is one who refuses to give in to unfair treatment. They will demand from you kindness, fair work hours, transparency and respect. They want to know what is in it for them. Such demands can be exceedingly uncomfortable initially.
Many horse people may react to these types of horses with anger and choose to blame the horse for being too naughty, too stupid or too disrespectful. Doing so is taking the easy way out and lacks accountability.
For those who are ready to commit to self betterment, though, they will respond to these horses with curiosity and start to look inward and adapt to reach this horse and help them succeed. Even if they aren’t able to have this response initially, they will eventually get there.
And thus begins the journey that will change your perception of horses as you know it. It will help you adapt your training in a way that allows for you to work with all types of horses. You will learn important deescalation tactics and realize that explosive stress responses are often created from human intervention, not the fault of the horse.
These horses teach us traits that make us better people as a whole and they are ones that we will always remember and hold dear, no matter how much grief and frustration they initially may cause us.
I am so incredibly thankful for these horses. For without their demands, without their strength of spirit; I would likely have continued to enable myself in lacking flexibility in training, in engaging in lazy training methods that come at the expense of the horse.
Their strong wills and clear communication were the catalyst to a necessary change within.
So, thank you to the difficult horses. The horses who demand more from us and don’t succumb to poor treatment, even if it initially results in unfair treatment to them. They keep on demanding, they keep on communicating, until they are finally heard.
These are the horses that ignite the change in the very fabric of horsemanship. Even amongst the horse people who initially try to ignore them.
Thank them for their difficulty.