03/20/2025
The Comparison Trap: Why Your Dog's Progress Is Their Own
We've all been there.
You're at the park and see someone working with their dog - perfect heel, flawless recall, calm around distractions - while you're still celebrating that your reactive dog looked at another dog from really far away without barking today.
Or maybe you're scrolling through social media, watching training videos where dogs seem to master complex behaviors in minutes, while you've been working on a simple "sit stay" for weeks.
And suddenly, that little voice creeps in: "Why isn't my dog progressing like that? What am I doing wrong?"
Welcome to the comparison trap - and it's time to break free.
Here's the truth: Every dog's journey is fundamentally unique.
That "perfect" dog at the park?
You have no idea what their background is.
Maybe they've been training for years.
Maybe they were the calmest and most laid-back puppy from the litter.
Maybe they just came back from a recall training seminar or intensive workshop.
Maybe you're catching them on their best day ever, while you're working through a training challenge with your own dog.
And those social media videos?
They don't show the hours of practice, the failed attempts, or the specific circumstances that made that perfect take possible.
When we compare our dogs to others, we're rarely comparing equal situations.
Your dog comes with their own unique combination of genetics, early experiences, environment, and history. A Labrador from show lines raised in a perfect environment will react differently in new environments than a rescue mixed breed with an unknown past.
And that's okay! That's normal!
The problem is that comparison doesn't just make us feel bad - it actually undermines our training success.
When we focus on how our dogs "should" be progressing (based on other dogs), we miss the real progress happening right in front of us. We get frustrated faster. We lose patience. We might even give up on approaches that are actually working, just not at the speed we expected.
So how do we escape the comparison trap?
First, start tracking your dog's progress against their own past, not against other dogs. Take notes or videos of where you started versus where you are now.
Second, celebrate the micro-wins. Did your reactive dog look at a trigger and then back at you? That's huge! Did your anxious dog recover from a scare a little bit faster than last week? Amazing progress!
Third, remember that the timeline in dog training is measured in months and years, not days and weeks. Lasting behavioral change takes time.
Fourth, be selective about your social media consumption. If certain accounts make you feel inadequate about your training journey, it's okay to unfollow.
Finally, connect with trainers and communities that understand that each dog is an individual with their own unique path.
Your dog's journey doesn't need to look like anyone else's to be successful. The only fair comparison is to where your dog was last month.
Have you caught yourself in the comparison trap? What helped you shift your perspective?
Happy Training!