09/28/2025
The Hardest Part Of Being A Modern Horse Trainer
People want everything now.
They want a âhead setâ, neck reining and collection in 90 days.
They âjust want to trail ride, nothing fancyâ yet that is the hardest, most difficult thing to ask a horse to do. Not physically, but mentally. Leave your herd, go into the great unknown with just you and with unpredictable and uncontrollable variables. It takes tons of training and experience to get a horse ready for that.
They want dead quiet, obedient, not spooky, bomb proof and never âmisbehaveâ but also âethicalâ training, pressure free, a horse with a personality and not a broken spirit.
Horses trained ethically SPEAK and if they are not heard when they show discomfort, worry, etc. they will yell. But people donât want them to yell. They want them to shut up and behave, but still have personality and be happy. Itâs an impossible ask for most horses.
I watched a video the other day of a trail rider whose saddle was so far to the right I was amazed she wasnât falling off. Her horse just walking along with an incredibly crooked saddle and rider because he had no choice. The amount of pain that must cause in his whole body and if he is pushing it that way, the chronic crookedness. That is a whole other post. They dissociate to cope until they canât anymore. Then they get sent to a trainer to âfixâ.
They want a young horse they can have for many years but he needs to act like a horse with 10yrs of GOOD riding experience.
They want pretty, sound, sane, trained and spend very little. Mind you - feeding a horse well for a year costs about $3,000 JUST THE FEED. Forget about hauling, board, labor, vet, farrier, property maintenance, tack, taxes, manure disposal, insurance and on and on.
Unless you can pay a trainer to keep your horse tuned at the barn full-time and you just come along, hop on a few times a week and thatâs it, then YOU are the trainer. There is no other option. You are always training the horse something. Itâs not a machine. Whatever you reinforce, you are teaching.
If you are not willing to grow as a horseman, learn, help your horse, learn to listen to them and read them. Then buy the shut down broke horse. Depending on how far and broken they are, will show how long they will be robotic.
That horse is a product of what people demand.
If your heart demands you to not go down that road. Then the alternative is you becoming what your horse needs. This involves a ton of work, learning, making mistakes, growth and a realization that THIS is what Itâs really about.
When you ride down the trail on a confident, happy horse that YOU helped to stay that way or become that way, the feeling is otherworldly. It is truly magical, fulfilling and honoring the horse.
I will say it is also very addicting.
Your horse trainer can only do so much, you have to do the rest.
We do not train broke horses. Anyone who has ever ridden one of our mustangs or visited the ranch will tell you as much. They have huge personalities and we obsess over listening to them and trying to figure out what they are wanting to tell us.
If you are interested in becoming the partner your horse needs we have painstakingly developed online courses to help you. It has been a labor of love, a love of the horse, and worth every hour.
All our online learning can be found at the link in our bio and on our website: iehorsemanship.com. We are currently enrolling for our Mustang Ride Blueprint course if you want to start your horse (any breed) under saddle or have a horse you want to fill holes and restart.
We are here to help you.
Horses are expensive. The cheapest and imo, the best way to do it, is yourself.