01/19/2021
According to google the average horse lives 25-30 years. And I might guess that the average amount of rideable years might be from when they are 3 to 20. Yes, some people start them at 2 and some people ride them until they are 28 but other people start them at 5 and some might be retired before 20. So we’re just putting an average type of number out there.
That gives us 17 years of time that our horse will be a riding horse. This is about 6,205 days. Do you know how many we get as a c**t starter? 90...sometimes more but rarely less. Other c**t starters might do it in 30, but we typically turn down that job. At this point you might be wondering what my point is. Well...from my observation I’ve seen c**t starters be blamed for a lot while credited for very little. That’s not always the case but as an example, I’ve heard of a person with a 10 year old horse blame the c**t starter for some very basic issue like the horse drops it’s shoulder. This is the point when I’m internally scratching my head.. So you’re telling me they didn’t teach the horse to pick it’s shoulder up in 90 days (or maybe 30), and that’s a problem...but you’ve been riding that horse for 7 years and haven’t taught it to pick it’s shoulder up and that’s not your fault?
Here’s one of the trickiest things with horses. Many times, if you don’t have the understanding of how to teach something, then you also might not be able to maintain it. Even if someone teaches your horse how to do something, there is still some requirement on the part of the rider to practice it and keep it going. And keep in mind we’re talking about young horses here. A horse might be able to do things but the horse KNOWING something might still be a few thousand repetitions away.
And to add to the difficulty this isn’t a bicycle or a lawn mower that you can get on and operate objectively. This is a living breathing animal and your RELATIONSHIP with this animal will spread into everything you do. A spoiled horse is like a disease that spreads throughout a body. Your spoiled horse lacks focus, willingness, and brings attitude to the conversation more often than not. Horses are naturally emotional animals...this is typically an issue because so are we.
Think about it this way, a spoiled child is sent to boot camp. This child has been given everything when ever they want and especially when they shouldn’t be. For example they whine and cry about something and boom! They get that thing. This kid shows up at boot camp and those first couple weeks might be pretty rough but if they stick it out they will learn to respect and listen to their commanding officers. Now that kid goes home into the environment where a bit of complaining creates some positive reinforcement. Pretty soon that kid will likely fall into its old ways. Or if they are good natured they may land somewhere between their boot camp ways and their spoiled ways.
Many spoiled horses are rewarded for negative behavior. A horse disrespectfully entering your space and then being given treats is sometimes the start of the cancer that takes over the whole relationship. What does this turn into? Distraction, only doing things when it’s convenient for them, running you over if something scary is nearby, the list is nearly endless of the negative repercussions of this one thing. But that’s because it’s not one thing...it’s a relationship, it’s how you allow your equine partner to treat you. Allowing a human partner to call you names and talk down to you would also create problems through the whole relationship.
I know y’all just read that but most of you still don’t get it. YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS EVERYTHING. When you ask for something is it black and white or sometimes gray? Is your horse expected to lead well, except when there is green grass can he pull on you for a bit of a snack? This seems like nothing but I’m telling you it’s everything. It’s why he refuses the trailer, or the bridge obstacle. It’s why he bumps into you (or flat out mows you down) when he’s scared or distracted.
This is the part where I tell you to invest in yourself. Get the lessons, watch the videos, and go ride with others. Videos are a great tool but my old golf instructor used to tell me, “there’s a difference between feel and real.” You need to have someone watch you because what it feels like you’re doing and what you’re actually doing are two different things.
Probably one of my favorite expressions in the horse world is, “a well trained horse is like a finely tuned instrument, someone can tune it for you, but you still have to learn to be a musician to play it.”
You can still blame the c**t starter if you’d like, heck sometimes I do and I am him! But YOU are the biggest piece when it comes to success with your horse, and YOU will spend more time with your horse than anyone else...and that horse never stops figuring you out. If the c**t starter gets 90 days, you better be ready for the other 6,115 days.