07/14/2024
OMG YES, I see so many new relationships start to crash & burn 6 months or a year later when if the first few months were handled differently it would have been fine. So many people say but the dog is great, no issues, BUT it has only been a few weeks.
THE BIGGEST MISTAKE THAT PEOPLE MAKE WITH RECENTLY REHOMED DOGS…
Is showering them with “love.”
That’s right. The biggest mistake that people (adopters, fosters, shelter/rescue staff, etc) make with recently rehomed or rescued dogs, is giving them an abundance of (inappropriate) physical love and attention.
Why?
1. The physical displays that humans give when offering “love and affection” include behaviors such as kissing them on the face, leaning over them, hugging them, excessive prolonged petting, and constantly interacting with them. These behaviors are all naturally threatening to a lot dogs, or at best, annoying, particularly when the dog is interacting with someone new to them. What we think of as “love” is often seen as discomfort from the eyes of a newly rehomed or rescued dog. This can sadly push the dog to displaying aggression in defense of the perceived threats.
2. The dog’s entire world just turned upside down. They are removed from EVERYTHING familiar to them. They are stressed. Studies have shown that stress levels in dogs from big events (such as relocating) can take up to three days to even begin to start to decrease. Add to that all of the excessive interaction and you’re preventing the dog from being able to relax.
3. Some dogs don’t know what it’s like to have a ton of attention and interaction. Lots of dogs sadly grew up neglected or living outdoors, etc. Therefore an over abundance of attention stresses them out because it’s not normal to them and they don’t know how to respond. They never had the chance to grow up developing positive associations with it.
4. Giving more than the average amount of time and attention to the dog in the beginning sets a precedent for later. At some point, the dog will get less attention when they’re no longer brand new, when the owner goes back to work, and when life just carries on in general. This can harm the dog later by predisposing them to developing separation anxiety type behaviors.
5. Decompression, i.e. time to chill out, rest, and recover is way more important than an overload of attention. Giving the dog some space while implementing predictable routines will help stress levels decrease faster and allow for better integration. Those are things the dog can really understand and appreciate.
There will be plenty of time to bond with the dog without being excessive in the amount of attention you give. Show them love and build trust appropriately and in a long lasting way via daily care, training, and overall time spent together. THAT’s the kind of love you want to shower them with.