To prepare Bailey for the kids, I did what all the books said to do. We practiced sit, stay, change of routines, and leave it. I even taught her to pick things up for me (because who wants to pick things up off the floor at 8 months pregnant?).
One thing I didn't think to teach Bailey?
Patience.
Because sometimes a toddler HAS to push the stroller, pick up pine cones, and take her shoes off mid-walk.
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My favorite activity to do with kids and dogs is nosework. It's a no contact game, can be adjusted for both child and dog's development, and provides your dog an enriching species appropriate activity. This game also builds confidence with the environment (note bailey in the playpen with the balloon!).
Bailey has taken a few classes of nosework so she is searching for the essential oil clove in this video. You can also hide small piles of kibble or treats for your dog to find. I always start by letting the dog watch me hide the thing and make it really easy. As they get better at searching and understand the game, you can start to make it harder by hiding it out of sight and while they aren't watching.
The other nice part? The messier your house, the better the hiding places 😉
What's your dog's favorite game?
Fun safe activities between your dog and your toddler can be hard to find but one of my favorites is fetch.
My favorite way to play fetch with toddlers is with a bucket of balls and a chair. The child sits in the chair and the parent hands the child one ball at a time for them to throw. The dog can move and chase the ball while the toddler sits. Then the dog gets put on their bed or tethered to a spot and the child gets to run and pick up all the balls.
This game teaches turn taking and provides a safe interaction between dog and child.
Throwing was one of the first things I encouraged Lenora to learn (I know, you can tell I'm a first time mom 😅) purely for this game.
After throwing the ball for bailey for about 10 minutes, knowing she was tired and almost ready to go inside, I handed the ball to Lenora on a whim to see how they would do.
The below video is their second fetch interaction. I am ready to step in between them should bailey decide to go for the ball. I think next time I need to set it up properly for a longer game!
What activities do your dogs and toddlers enjoy doing?
Body language quiz! How did I know that Bailey was asking Adam to play? What do you notice about her approach?
Note: you see my arm toward the end because Lenora is standing next to me so I was acting as a barrier between her and the dogs
I have a confession to make.
I'm lazy and don't always like to train my dog.
I have a lot of things going on and not always a lot of time to get them done so often times I choose very carefully what I make a priority - and many times, training my dogs isn't one of those things.
Don't get me wrong! I still love training them to do things...when I have time. It's fun teaching tricks that can enhance our bond and work their minds.
But for those less than ideal behaviors that are completely natural for my dogs to do (digging, barking, chewing), I'd rather find a safe way for them to engage in doing that than spend all my time and energy trying to change who they are.
As an example, Bailey loves to dig. She digs when she is extra excited and pumped up about something. If I tried to train that behavior away, not only would I be frustrated, but Bailey would be prevented from expressing herself - and that doesn't seem fair.
So instead, I embraced her need to dig and gave her a special spot. If I see her digging in any other spot than hers, I redirect back to the legal area. And since I just put in a garden taking up half of her original spot, I put up a fence.
I'm lazy and don't have the time to train my dog not to be a dog - though I wouldn't want to even if I did have the time.
What behaviors have you found workarounds for?
Note: Bailey will always lay in the hole she creates and it makes my heart happy
This is why I love loose leash walking so much! Had I not put in the effort with Bailey (aka blood sweat and tears), walking with her next to the stroller wouldn't have been possible.
She would have missed out and I would have felt guilty leaving her home while I took Lenora to the park.
Instead, she gets a walk and I get to keep my arm in its socket! Win-win!
What are you doing with your dogs today?
Teaching Adam to Walk Away
Adam and Bailey both struggle with some anxiety.
Bailey is anxious about anything that moves unexpectedly (to her). Things like trashcan lids, yoga balls, and strollers will alarm her if they move randomly.
Adam is anxious about unexpected events. He likes things to be orderly and predictable.
A baby plays into both of those anxieties.
However, while Bailey will move away from things that frighten her, Adam, defensively, will move toward them.
Because his natural instinct is "fight" over "flight", I wanted to teach him a cue that taught him to move away. Similar to the send out in sports like IPO and Obedience, this "walk away" cue tells Adam to turn around and leave whatever situation he was cued to walk away from.
This does two things. 1) It shows him another option he has rather than advancing. He will likely feel relief from gaining distance and relief is reinforcing. 2) It proves to him that I will support him. If I start to notice him getting worried and cue him to walk away, he begins to understand that he can rely on me to know what to do.
Management is always a high priority in households with kids and dogs. With the two dogs we have, I know it will be part of our daily life. Training cues such as this one helps our dogs not just cope with the transitions, but thrive.
This is a short clip of our very first session learning "walk away". Since this clip, I have refined how to teach this and build it up from here, but my goal with this first session was to teach him that "walk away" means turn around and find some food.
What things have you taught your dog to help make life easier for them as well as you?
Note: I had the actual cup of food in my jacket pocket so my belly wasn't as big and oddly shaped as it appears in this video! 😅
#thursdaythings
Sound can be either therapeutic or terrifying
It can calm us down or amp us up
The same goes for our dogs. Music can be a great way to help your dog ease into being alone
This is my work setup today (please excuse the messy desk). Both dogs are being conditioned to relax to the Calming CD created by Victoria Stilwell and Through A Dogs Ear. Specially formulated with acoustics to promote calmness its an hour of soothing music
They are usually calm during this time so I started introducing it now to help them associate sleep and relax time with this specific music with me in the room. This is also conditioning bailey to the crate while I'm home. Eventually I will close the door
What does your dog like to listen to?
[Video description: Adam and bailey curled up sleeping while classical music plays and then the video pans to a super messy desk where I'm working today]
#WorkingWednesday
Vet exams can be scary. They poke and prod and many times dogs have no say in how they are handled.
Bailey is afraid and nervous around strangers - especially if they touch her without her being aware of it first.
So to help ease her fears I taught her a simple chin rest. While her chin rests in my hand, the vet has permission to evaluate Bailey's body. If her head comes out of my hand, we pause and let her take a breather until she's ready to begin again.
At home we practice this often, especially since, with Covid, I can't go in with her. I want her to be used to people touching, pinching, and lifting different parts without it being scary.
We work very closely with our vet to help alleviate these issues and they know the protocol of chin rests so I trust them when I cant be in there with her.
Does your dog struggle at the vet? How do you handle vet visits?
[Video description: bailey placing her head in my hand while I run my hand down her back, lift up her ears, touch her front legs, and look at her teeth]
Dog training doesn't take a lot of extra time.