24/11/2025
Janet's Mentoring Monday:
This season is becoming bright, busy, noisy, and full of activities with families and friends, all especially challenging for anyone with PTS, a traumatic brain injury, or other medical disability. If you have a loved one in this situation that you want to include, make sure you have a quiet corner set aside where they can sit with their back to the wall. Don't force this person to get up and mingle where they can be startled by a tap on the shoulder or an unexpected enthusiastic greeting and hug. These can be huge triggers for people with PTS. Their anticipation and fear of being triggered and embarrassing themselves or you may be enough for them to turn down your invitation, so don't be offended if that happens. Instead, ask if there's somewhere you could meet to have a quieter, more personal celebration. Since their own living quarters are often their sanctuary, ask them to choose a neutral spot where they will be comfortable. If they still don't accept, appreciate their needs. Even if you THINK you understand what they're going through, avoid expressing those feelings, as it could be misinterpreted as minimizing their challenges. Just like the rest of us, people with disabilities are trying to make the best possible life for themselves every day within their limitations. Being a person who truly accepts those limitations is the best gift you can give.