20/12/2022
🎵On the eighth day of Christmas, Honeysuckle Hills gave to me…
Some thoughts on living intentionally.🎵
The idea of living intentionally means different things to different people. For us, it’s all about investing our time and energy into the things that we believe in- things that bring meaning, joy, or purpose into our lives or into the lives of others. It’s about putting a lot of thought (and prayer) into our decisions and being willing to “sacrifice” some things to be able to prioritize others.
I use that word, sacrifice, in quotes because in reality, it’s not a sacrifice at all to live this way. But it has been a big adjustment to really consider which aspects of our life were worth the money (read: time and energy) we were trading for them. In a matter of a few years, we went from having 2 incomes and no kids to 2 kids and no income. 😆I’m joking (mostly)… but we did have some big lifestyle changes as part of the transition to this way of life. We took out my retirement, we’ve spent all of our savings and even sold my diamond engagement ring. We both drive older, unglamorous but dependable vehicles; we buy just about everything second-hand (furniture, clothes, shoes, appliances, bikes… you name it, we’ve probably thrifted it), we whittled down our monthly bills as much as we possibly could. (Matt and I are sharing 2GB of data on our phone plans, y’all.😂) I typically go to 3-4 grocery stores every week (plus farm visits for fresh milk and meats) so that we can eat a healthy diet as affordably as possible. We’re always browsing Craigslist and Facebook for free deals that might benefit our lives (or, you know, might end up in the dumpster after hours of labor🤣), and as I’m sure you’ve guessed, Matt DIYs just about everything, from car maintenance to plumbing to carpentry. I can’t remember the last time I had my hair done or my nails done or any of those other little indulgences I used to enjoy when I was bringing home an actual paycheck. We say a lot of “no, thank yous” to social events that cost money.
But in the big picture, NONE of that stuff truly matters. The trade-off is so much more rewarding than any material goods or any experience or convenience that money can buy. Sure, it would be nice to have more money, and there’s nothing wrong with having money or spending money or having material things or worldly indulgences or modern conveniences. It’s a very personal thing to decide what is important to you and how you prioritize your time and energy investments. (And yes, we realize just how blessed we are to have a choice in how we prioritize our time and energy- the privilege of our lifestyle is not lost to us.❤️) For us, this life- being in touch with nature, spending time together, learning new skills, educating our own children, doing hard but rewarding work- is what fills our hearts and souls and gives us purpose.
Ironically, now that we have the time and energy to invest here at our place, everything we have is nicer than it ever was when we had plenty of money but no time. We eat better, we rest better, we have beautiful spaces to connect with each other. Instead of lavish vacations we take little camping trips or get discount AirBnbs or take one-day “adventures” around our diverse area. Instead of spending a bunch of money dining out, we cook drool-worthy meals in our brick oven and eat them on the bridge over our creek or around a cozy fire. Instead of outsourcing the care of our children while Matt and I work outside the home, we continue to work to make our home a place worthy of bringing the work to us- and worthy of raising and educating our children- in the process.
Maybe I’m oversharing here. Maybe it’s taboo to talk about finances or to be so forward in defining our own priorities and intentions for an audience that didn’t ask. This type of talk tends to make some people uncomfortable and that is certainly not our intention. It just felt important to acknowledge that sometimes, to experience change in the way you feel and the way you’re experiencing life, you have to be willing to let some things go. If we had never taken a leap of faith, never stepped outside of our comfort zone, never let go of financial security, Matt would still be miserable in the construction industry, I would still be slaving away for 70-80 hours a week teaching in public school, our little farm wouldn’t exist nearly in the capacity it does today, and we would hardly have any time to spend with our most precious gifts- our children. So if you’ve been feeling the itch to do something different, something more fulfilling, we would love to encourage you to be willing to trust that everything will work out just fine if you are following your heart path. Will it be without obstacles, bumps, challenges, failures? Absolutely not. As I said yesterday, very little that’s worth doing ever is. But will it be worth every struggle when you are free of the relentless pressure of a hurried, overscheduled lifestyle and when you finally begin to feel fulfilled in your day-to-day life?
Yes. Yes, it will. ❤️
Thank you for reading, and for being witness to this journey. We appreciate you!