25/05/2023
The update I've been dreading. Also, note the photo here. Mom and Gus. Read more about Gus towards the end of my update.
After speaking with my mother’s physicians, I have some updates to pass along:
1. Mom is jaundiced, which means her liver is failing.
2. Mom’s kidneys have shut down.
3. She is having trouble breathing due to wet lungs.
4. She’s on continuous dialysis
5. She’s on strong antibiotics and now tests positive for c-diff.
6. Propofol and fentanyl have been stopped in an attempt to wake her up.
7. She had an EEG and her brain stem is still relatively healthy: this is the area of the brain which controls breathing and other functions like heartbeat.
8. The part of her brain where “she” is her is damaged severely. The brain function that makes her “her” is no longer functional.
Mom made it clear that she did not want to be intubated, vented, or otherwise kept alive via mechanical measures. When I took her to the ER, she revoked the DNR/DNI; however, at this point she cannot survive and still be my mom. She can no longer be Denise.
It is with unbelievable sadness that I must announce, I have decided to make her as comfortable as possible and remove all resuscitation efforts. This is to include her dialysis, the vent, and her breathing tube.
I’d like to thank each & every single person who has donated here, every person who helped me pay to have the electricity turned back on, who has brought food, sent kind messages, thoughts & prayers, or helped in any way so I could spend more time with her before she leaves. Also the people who are just as poor as I am who have offered moral support. This is by far the worst few days of my life and I cannot thank you enough.
If anybody still wishes to donate here, your donation will be put towards her cremation, a service, and the trip down to Concord, North Carolina so I can spread her ashes where she always wanted to be: with her mom and dad. And I want to spread some at her favorite fishing spots.
Finally, Gus—her German Shepherd—was trained to be a diabetic alert service animal and protection animal for her. He was so wonderful and he saved her life so many times. He will be with us when we say goodbye because he needs closure too. Once she passes, I plan to donate him to another brittle diabetic in hopes of him being able to save someone else’s life like he saved my mom’s. There’s simply no way I could squander his training and his gifted intelligence out of sheer selfishness. He has far too many skills and he wouldn’t be happy just hanging around with me.
My next update will probably be the last: either she becomes the recipient of the greatest miracle in the last 2000 years, or she will pass away as peacefully as possible.
Thank you all again from the bottom of my heart!
Ken Anderson
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