08/04/2024
Now, before anyone gets crazy and starts to “frenzy-type” and add lots of angry emojis, take a breath and let me explain.
If you’re looking for a great Heel, or a super reliable Recall, or a Downstay that is impervious to the chaotic world around it, training is absolutely essential. And, if you’re looking for ways “in” to help owners struggling with behavior issues, training, and the tools which often go with it, can be a huge benefit, and even a lifesaver.
My point is a simple one: most behavior issues are due to a fundamental misunderstanding, or confusion that our dogs have about us, because of us. Because we envelop them in constant affection; because we allow countless small moments which give rise to bigger ones; because when transgressions occur, we have no idea (or stomach for) how to assert ourselves and make it clear where the line is...we’ve created confusion. Our dogs, quite rightly, presume that we’re doormats, ripe for the treading, and that the environment they inhabit is ripe for whatever they decide to do with it.
Why would they think otherwise?
Of course the best approach, and best results come from traditionally understood training AND clarity about the social structure. When these are combined they’re an amazingly potent combination for great all around behavior, and a great life with your dog, but when they’re separated, one has a far greater impact and positive benefit.
You could absolutely argue that it’s all training, and in reality it is. But my point is that we prefer to lean far more heavily on the traditionally understood training, and far less so on the clarity of social structure, or less formal “training”. And the result is that the traditional training suffers without the backbone of the human defining the social boundaries without apology or timidity.
What I’m working to tease out and get folks to think about is the mindset we’ve largely set aside, or become uncomfortable with. The mindset which fuels and empowers everything else we do with our dogs—including traditional training. Because without the foundation of a clear and healthy social structure (humans lead, dogs follow), obeying commands and offering their best behavior, makes zero sense to a dog.
And given a choice between the two—traditional training without clear social structure, or clear social structure without traditional training—I’d opt for the latter every time. I wouldn’t have a highly trained dog in the traditional sense, bit I’d have a very polite, respectful, well-mannered dog that was a pleasure to live with.
But I’d never want one without the other. Which is why I share this post. Because we have no shortage of one, while the other has become almost taboo, uncivilized, and deemed unnecessary. Hopefully you’ll understand my rallying for the underdog...at least until it’s status is changed.
Commence outraged responses. 🤪