31/05/2021
Those who choose to do harm....
I had a weak moment yesterday and found myself doing something I should know better than to do - I commented on a dog training advert on Facebook that really upset me. I knew it was a lost cause and would only invite pointless arguments, but my filter failed and instead of scrolling on, I said something.
The post featured a burly trainer walking a Labrador on a slip lead. The dog was walking next to him (but not too close) avoiding eye contact, tail down, subdued and with frequent lip-licking and quick glances behind him (hypervigilance). The dog was clearly stressed and anxious and not having a good time at all. The trainer in the video spoke at length about how well-behaved his dog was and how anyone could get their dog to be the same by following his methods and training courses.
The look on that dog’s face upset me so much, that I threw common sense out the window and expressed my concern about the dog’s demeanour and what training methods had been used to get this level of “obedience”. I knew I was asking for it and sure enough I got several responses I could have written myself, from past experience with the balanced training brigade:
“I have never seen him do anything horrible to a dog”
“He is only using a slip lead high up on the dog’s neck and no nasty tools”
“He has a massive YouTube following – what do you have?”
“He rehabilitates aggressive dogs and saves them from being put down – how many dogs have you saved”
“Dogs can’t just do what they like – they have to listen to us”
“He always starts with positive reinforcement and only uses corrections when that doesn’t work”
As I had already stuck my neck out, I did try to address these objections to my comment. I pointed out that a dog’s emotional state, as reflected by their body language, does not lie. If a dog is clearly anxious and unhappy working with this trainer, then clearly what he is doing is making the dog feel that way – even if he does not intend to make the dog miserable, any half-decent trainer would recognise that there was something going seriously wrong and would not use a video like that as an advert! I explained that a slip collar high up behind the ears is in fact an aversive tool, designed to cause pain and choke the dog. I contested the misconception that rehabilitation requires pain and suffering on the part of the dog, when we have so many successful humane and science-based alternatives today.
Of course, I got nowhere. I was mocked and derided as I fully expected to be. But it made me think of something which I have occasionally discussed with colleagues. Something which we don’t often talk about publicly, because it is unsettling to acknowledge, but something which we perhaps need to admit to prevent us wasting our time and energy trying to win arguments with people who will never listen.
What I am referring to is the simple fact that some people like hurting dogs. It doesn’t matter how much evidence you present, how much you try to educate or how many scientific studies back up using force free, dog-friendly training methods, the reality is that there is a subset of trainers and dog owners who actually get satisfaction from frightening, subduing, punishing and hurting dogs (or whatever animals they may work with). Whether it is a feeling of power, control, dominance (yes, humans are the ones with dominance issues, not dogs) or something even more disturbing, we cannot pretend that everyone who uses aversive methods only does so, because they don’t know better. There are certain people who can be shown all the evidence in the world, yet will never be moved, because it is not about evidence or what is right and wrong – it is about the feelings that they get from what they are doing, which powerfully reinforce their behaviour.
Of course, there are people who are using aversive methods because they don’t know better, because someone has convinced them that it is necessary to keep their dog safe or because they are desperate and don’t know what else to do. But those people will change as soon as better information comes their way. I have often encountered clients like this, who are so relieved that they want to cry, when they find out that the horrible things some trainer told them to do, which they knew on some level were completely wrong, they don’t have to do anymore. Clients who become the biggest and most vocal “converts” when they find out that they can be kind to their dogs while addressing training issues.
But sadly, not everyone is like this. Some people will reject all information that undermines their right to frighten, hurt and control their dogs and their clients’ dogs. It is simply who they are. Perhaps one day they will change. Perhaps they have deep trauma and struggles they need to overcome in order to find better ways to feel satisfaction and pleasure than hurting others, but until that happens, we are unlikely to reach them.
As for me, I will keep trying to reach those who would do better, if only they knew better. Those who deep down, just want their dogs to be happy and safe and need to be shown how to achieve that.