Random Tidbits from the Boho Chic

21/07/2024

Kairos Cane Corso

17/07/2024

05/07/2024

Let’s keep Independence Day next year.
We gained this holiday being armed. If we forget our past, we are doomed to repeat it. We are a REPUBLIC, not a democracy.

01/02/2024

Beautiful morning

18/01/2024

Pearl has been learning about Dr. Martin Luther King this week, and we came across "The Kid President." I found it pretty awesome, and so did Pearl, so we wanted to share it with everyone.
She keeps telling me that she wants to "learn more and more and more."
We all should foster a love of learning in our children and nurture it, especially when it comes to love trumping hate.

Once upon a time, there was a man named Martin Luther King, Jr. He taught us that things won't always be awesome, but your response can be. Remember, things ...

02/12/2023

There is a difference between struggling with someone versus because of someone. The line is thin, but we owe it to ourselves and those around us not to blur the line. What I mean by this is that no one can genuinely make you happy. Happiness must come from within the depths of your soul so that when you are mistreated, abused, abandoned, taken for granted, or hurt, you can distinguish if it is due to your own expectations or because someone indeed did you a disservice.

Why do we need to know the difference? Some people give up on marriage, friendships, and life in general due to the expectations that they set for themselves or others around them, and they take the struggle personally instead of separating the struggle from the person, and thus, they destroy the relationship.

Relationships are complicated, but you must know the difference between a true betrayal and a struggle. A struggling individual needs love, grace, and mercy, but an abusive person needs boundaries. You are in danger of becoming codependent if you mistake abuse for a struggle. On the other hand, you are at risk of becoming judgemental and harsh if you mistake a struggle for abuse.

Pain is inevitable. Hardships are inevitable. Abuse is a by-product of pain and hardships, and how the abuse is handled is a precursor for its longevity.

If you find yourself suffering because of someone, then it is time to re-evaluate your idea of them changing. The promises made do not get broken because you failed to offer what the person needed or wanted. The promises are broken because there is a chasm inside their soul.

If you choose to stay, please ask yourself, "Am I struggling with this person or because of this person?" God never intended us to place ourselves on the cross and be beaten with Jesus; he took those lashings for us, and on the other hand, he asked us to love one another as he cried out to the Father to forgive the abusers because" they know not what they do. "

Why is that? Because there is a chasm within their soul, and sometimes the best thing we can do is love them but stand up and refuse to take the beatings that they are lashing upon us due to their pain.

If you are in an abusive relationship, please look at yourself and see if there is a healthier way to deal with your abuser than accepting it, excusing it, ignoring it, or suffering it. You are a treasure and deserve only the best this life has for you; go find your happiness.

If you are in a relationship and are struggling due to expectations, do yourself and the other person a favor and talk it through, offer grace and mercy, set healthy boundaries, and stop criticizing the pain that you were meant to help them struggle through.

Love is more than just a word; it is an action deep within the person to see past the struggling soul and see what they can become vs how they are currently acting. It is not excusing their behavior, but it is acknowledging the pain and helping them walk through it without damaging your own soul or allowing them to damage you in the process.

Love well,
Alesha

12/11/2023

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26/10/2023

THE BOTTOM OF THE SEA
Alesha Hartley

There are days that you will be on top of the world, and then there are days that you will be at the bottom of the sea, struggling to grasp the little air left in your lungs.

If all you do is struggle to breathe at the bottom of the sea, you will miss the wonders of being there. However, breathing with all that pressure is hard, and it's not something we want to go through.

Go through it, we must.
Struggle while doing it?
No, we don't have to.

1) Take a deep breath and preserve it to the best of your ability
2) Find the Lesson
3) Take each stroke to the surface methodically
4) When you get to the surface, breathe
5) Swim toward the shoreline and adjust what needs to be adjusted
6) Take the first step back out into the water
7) Run until you fall into the abyss again
8) Start all over

Those are my steps to winning. There is "no cry in the corner" and wait for someone to save you. Trust me when I say," I have done that, and it's overrated."
You can take a hand here and there and an encouraging word, but no one, and I mean no one, will give you what you need internally except for God and yourself, so stop waiting on it.

Please look at #7 again; it is there because it will always be there no matter how many times you try to jump over that wave. It will be there until you deal with it, and once you get past one wave, there will be another one somewhere along the line. And one day, a big ole damn tsunami will hit you out of nowhere and send you tumbling back into the abyss, but you must keep going. Quitting is not an option; learning and changing are, but quitting is not.

Swim with the dolphins today, and when the wave of life tries to separate you from the living, I pray that you have a pod willing to coach you into the crystal clear waters again and that you are strong enough to withstand the current trying to pull you under.
~Alesha~

13/08/2023

orchid class was a blast!

13/06/2023

This is so true

12/06/2023

Piccatso !!!