01/12/2024
Most people think that to connect with their horse, you need to try to connect.
It makes sense at first—when something feels off, the natural response is to lean in and work harder to create those moments of harmony. You might focus on getting your horse to respond, feeling like if you just try the right approach, the connection will happen.
But does this always work? Does pushing for connection lead to those deeper moments every time?
Connection actually begins in noticing when your horse is disconnected, when your horse looks away, hesitates, or pulls on the reins. Those aren’t failures or roadblocks; they’re messages directly from your horse to listen to. By noticing these moments, you can start to see where your horse is coming from. If you don’t understand your horse’s perspective—what they’re feeling or thinking—the connection you’re trying to create won’t fully come through..
If you don’t learn to recognize disconnection, you might find yourself stuck. You’ll keep trying harder, wondering why it’s not working, or feeling like you’re missing something. The harder you push, the more frustrating it can feel—for you and your horse. And those little miscommunications can pile up, creating distance and undesirable behaviors instead of the closeness you want.
Is trying to connect really working every single time?
Have you noticed moments where it just doesn’t seem to click, no matter what you do?
What’s the most often way your horse disconnects with you?
For over 40 years, we’ve been helping riders get past the roadblocks of their horse disconnecting and misbehaving.
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