14/07/2024
Lessons in Leadership from My Mare
Throughout history, humans have sought wisdom from various sources, often turning to books, mentors, and experiences for guidance. However, some of the most profound lessons in leadership can come from unexpected places. For me, one such source has been my mare. Since I can remember, I have been an avid horse lover. I found Angel, a Haflinger mare, when she was young and green. She has taught me that horses, with their inherent qualities and behaviors, offer unique insights into leadership that are both timelesss and universal. Here are some key lessons I’ve learned from my mare that have profoundly influenced my approach to leadership.
1. Trust and Respect Are Earned
In the equine world, trust and respect are not given freely; they must be earned. When I first started working with my mare, it was clear that she would not follow my lead blindly. I had to prove myself trustworthy and capable. This is a critical lesson for any leader. Trust and respect from your team are earned through consistent, honest, and fair behavior. Just as my mare learned to trust me through my actions and patience, so too will a team come to respect a leader who demonstrates integrity and reliability.
2. Communication Is Key
Horses communicate primarily through body language, and my mare taught me the importance of non-verbal communication. A slight shift in my posture or a change in my energy could elicit different responses from her. This taught me to be acutely aware of my non-verbal cues and to understand that effective communication goes beyond words. In leadership, being attuned to the unspoken signals of your team—such as body language, tone of voice, and even silence—can provide critical insights into their thoughts and feelings. Effective leaders listen with their eyes and their ears.
3. Patience and Consistency Yield Results
Training a horse requires a great deal of patience and consistency. Progress can be slow, and setbacks are common, but steady, consistent effort leads to success. This mirrors the journey of leadership, where patience and persistence are essential. Change and growth within a team or organization take time, and leaders must be patient yet consistent in their vision and actions. My mare taught me that small, incremental steps can lead to significant progress over time.
4. Leading with Empathy
Horses are incredibly perceptive animals, often mirroring the emotions of those around them. My mare’s sensitivity to my mood and energy highlighted the importance of empathy in leadership. Leading with empathy means understanding and acknowledging the emotions and perspectives of your team members. An empathetic leader creates a supportive environment where individuals feel valued and understood, fostering loyalty and motivation. Just as my mare responded positively to empathetic handling, team members thrive under empathetic leadership.
5. Adaptability and Flexibility
No two days with a horse are the same. Some days my mare would be cooperative and eager to work, while other days she would be stubborn and unyielding. This unpredictability taught me the importance of adaptability and flexibility. Leaders must be able to adjust their approach based on the situation and the needs of their team. Rigidity can lead to frustration and stagnation, whereas adaptability fosters resilience and innovation. My mare’s varying moods required me to be flexible in my methods, a lesson that has been invaluable in leadership.
6. Leading by Example
Horses are herd animals, naturally inclined to follow a strong, confident leader. My mare looked to me for guidance and assurance, especially in unfamiliar situations. This reinforced the idea that leaders must lead by example. Demonstrating confidence, decisiveness, and calmness, especially in challenging times, inspires confidence and trust in others. A leader’s behavior sets the tone for the team, and by embodying the qualities you wish to see in your team, you naturally lead them in the right direction. An old horseman’s saying is “Show me your horse and I will tell you who you are.”
7. Building a Strong Bond
The bond between a horse and its handler is built on mutual respect, trust, and understanding. This relationship is not dissimilar to the bond between a leader and their team. Investing time in building strong relationships with team members creates a foundation of trust and cooperation. Angel showed me that a strong bond enhances communication, collaboration, and overall effectiveness.
My love for her has led me to unexpected leadership opportunities. I have sat on the Board of Directors for the American Haflinger Registry and the Haflinger Breeder's Co-op. I also cofounded, with two other amazing women, the American Haflinger Alliance.
Angel has been a remarkable teacher in the art of leadership. Trust, respect, communication, patience, empathy, adaptability, leading by example, and building strong relationships are not just principles for handling horses—they are the bedrock of effective leadership. As I continue to learn from Angel, who is now 18, I carry these lessons she has taught me into every aspect of my life, striving to be a leader worthy of the trust and respect she has shown me.