10/09/2025
Couldn't have said it better myself !
So many of you are struggling, not because the answers aren’t out there, but because you don’t like the way the answers feel.
You’re so desperate for your dog to be happy — superficially, and in the moment — that you are blinded by what their true needs are, and what actually enriches their lives longterm.
And when we truly dive into the deep end of what’s behind our decisions, it’s far less about what makes our dogs unhappy, and far more about what makes us unhappy when we don’t get the instant (and constant) gratification of seeing our dogs in a constant state of “giddiness.”
The truth is, many of us are unconsciously using our dogs to make ourselves feel better/happy. And while getting pleasure/joy from our dogs is a wonderful thing, it’s only wonderful if the pleasure/joy we’re deriving doesn’t come at the cost of our dogs true, non-superficial pleasure/joy.
Stressed, anxious, chaotic, overwhelmed, overstimulated dogs — who can’t relax, who only know a life of being frazzled (except when asleep), and who due to their lack of reliable/healthy behavior can’t truly be included in our daily lives (their greatest pleasure/joy) — are anything but happy dogs.
The painful upshot that many don’t want to honestly examine is that we sacrifice our dogs’ wellbeing and quality of life for our own superficial, selfish, instant gratification.
We say we want them to be happy, but what we truly want is for ourselves to be happy. And that blindness to the true motivations of our behavior/choices/priorities for our dogs means that we will continue to “miss” the quality training and lifestyle information that is everywhere, not because it’s hard to find… but because it doesn’t deliver what we want most…
The selfish hit of joy that we will pursue regardless of the cost to that which we claim to love so dearly.