08/04/2025
This picture deserves a permanent spot in the feed because these two giant, genuine grins tell a story I’ve spent much of the last few years terrified I’d never be able to tell.
A different me would have been consumed by stress about all the damage caused by the storms, the flooding, and their aftermath, and likely would have complained about having to chase the cows all over creation in the pouring rain.
But in the middle of it I turned to Adam and said, in all earnest, “isn't this just THE BEST?!”
We CHOSE this life, and the adventure and character development it provides is MORE THAN worth the temporary discomfort we often experience as a result of that choice. Life is never boring, and I kinda like it that way.
The best part of this, (and if you know anything at all about our story, you’ll understand how huge this is) is that Adam looked back at me and said “THIS IS AWESOME.” And he totally meant it.
There was a time, not too long ago, I wouldn’t have even dared to call and ask him to come help. Farming was my thing, not his, this was my problem, not his. I hated asking him for help, not because he was unwilling, but because I was always terrified I was dragging him along on a journey he didn’t actually want to be on, and God forbid “my thing” make him feel any more inconvenienced than I was always sure he already was by it all.
Something I’ve had to learn over and over and over again is that not asking for help doesn’t just rob me of being met where I’m at, it robs those I love the opportunity to experience the joy, meaning and sense of purpose that comes from *having helped* but far worse for, it also robs my relationships of the intimacy that comes from knowing my people have my back.
The worst thing that can happen when we ask for help is that someone says “no,” and we end up in the exact same position we are already in. And yet, vulnerability feels like such an insurmountable risk.
Why?
Because so many of us have been lied to about the “value” in independence, “self” reliance, and have forgotten how much we truly need one another.
Adam and I have been to hell and back the past few years. We’ve almost called it quits so many times. I’m so, so proud to have stuck it out. So thankful he has too. We often still find ourselves in the thick of it, but there has been more joy and sweetness in the good times we’ve fought so hard to keep on the other side of it all.
My friend, if you’re struggling, keep that chin up. Identify and fight for what’s good. And when you get stuck, ask for help. Keep going. It’s worth it.