08/02/2024
“She’s such a mare!” - said about the tail swishing, ear pinning mare who is kicking out at leg because she doesn’t want to go forward.
“Oh my god, look at her mare face!” - someone laughs at the mare who is ear pinning and snaking her head at those passing by her stall, threatening to bite.
“Thats definitely a mare!” A commenter jokes on a video of a horse who tries to kick and bite while doing up the girth.
The amount of internalized misogyny that we project onto mares is really sad, especially when so many of those doing it also have uteruses and likely understand the experience of having similar hormones and know what it’s like to cycle.
I’m not always feeling my best. Sometimes I have cramps that make me uncomfortable enough that work becomes harder.
The difference is that I have the autonomy to go and take pain killers, take a sick day or at least articulate my pain to those around me so they can understand why I’m having a harder time.
When mares attempt to do that, we brush off their feelings and blame their gender, reducing their discomfort to the fact that they’re a female.
When geldings offer the same behaviours, it is never blamed on their s*x.
Did you know that in the studies they have done on horse s*xes and whether there is actually a notable difference between mares and geldings, mares actually tested higher for having more amiable behaviours?
Overall, mares and geldings proved to be quite similar with very marginal differences, though.
Despite being an industry made up of an abundance of participants who know what it’s like to have a uterus, we still remain extremely discriminatory to mares, despite the fact that we should understand their experience better because of our similarities.
I, too, used to buy into the mare stereotype and “didn’t like” mares.
Now, I have more mares than geldings.
They’re dependable, they’re friendly, they’re brave, they’re sweet and they’re kind.
And if they ever deviate from this norm, it’s my job to explore why.
My OTTB mare, when she arrived to me, was the stereotypical mare.
She would try to kick me and bite me when I brushed her.
She was moody and disagreeable.
She was also riddled with stomach ulcers and extremely body sore from the racetrack, having been trained in an elevator bit and having substantial poll discomfort because of it.
Want to know what happened when I addressed this?
She became one of my sweetest and most easy to handle horses who is so incredibly consistent in her behaviour that she tends to be more dependable than a lot of my geldings.
Anyone who is perpetually running into mares who are “b*tchy” should work to consider what it is in their training and care program that is making them that way.
The fault is ours, not the entire gender category of mares.
This bias against mares and how many of their attempts to communicate their discomfort are simply attributed to their s*x is archaic and embarrassing.
It serves no one and it does mares a massive disservice while perpetuating the similar undertones of misogyny that are so harmful to women and other uterus having people.